Why does being alone have to be so difficult?

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I'm a college student that commutes to school. All my friends have gone off elsewhere to college, and I can't make any new friends on campus because I'm only at campus to take my classes... Most of my free time I spend at my church, doing stuff for them, but I'm the only representative of my age group there. It's almost unbearable to be alone so much, with no friends around, no chance in hell of getting a girlfriend (even if I was able to get one), and most of my social contact being with people significantly older or younger than me...

heh... a few years ago I would have wanted to get rid of all the people in my age range... it's only after a few years of them being gone that I realize how much I miss them...

I hope you feel better, because from your recent posts, it seems like you've been down lately. I think all single people get like this during the holidays- I know I do to some extent.

I'm not even going to attempt to give you trite advice, since we're more or less in the same boat- it'd be a case of the blind leading the blind.

And I agree, even though most everyone I know my age is caught up in mindless drama-infused relationships, at least they aren't alone. It sounds weird to say, but I envy them in a way. I can sympathize with you because although I know there are girls that like me, I'm not into them and I don't want to enter a relationship I'm not 100% into. It doesn't seem right to do that to them or to me. I actually want to love the girl completely and not just have a disposable practice girlfriend. I just don't like settling for less, but maybe that's my (our?) problem.

I doubt I was much help, but I hope you feel better over the holidays.

Well I can partially ignore it due to all teh work that takes place in december... finals, all the christmas stuff going on at the church, setting up stuff at home, etc... Also, christmas is when all the college students come back from college and I get to occasionally see them around at the church...

The holiday that I get the worst of, though, is Valentine's day... That's usually a low period in college workload if you're on a semester schedule, there's practically nothing going on at the church (unless easter is abnormally early like it was this year; then there might be a very small amount of buildup going on), none of my friends are around, and to top it off, everyone is flaunting the fact that they have found love and single me out... the abundance of themed commercials for jewelers doesn't help either...


Well you're a considerate person regardless...


I can certainly understand that... I want to get to know a woman before I start dating, and since there aren't that many women that I know and are in the area right now, it doesn't help...


Nah, you were a great help... at least I know I'm not alone in being alone...

Get more free time. Stop doing things for your church once in a while and actually talk to people in your class. Find a club or activity that you can do. don't whine that you aren't interested in anything except (insert obscure hobby that only you're interested in), try something new. Broaden your horizons!

Funny, I was just going to suggest that when I read the OP . Find a group to join. When I was in college there was a young christians' group I joined; I hope there's also a group for an interest of yours. I also volunteered for the school paper, just to help put it togther, not to write anything (I didn't then and still dont feel like I have a lot to say of interest to the general NT public). I wish you luck!

You have us. You don't need anyone else; there are what, 18 000 members on here! You can meet some of them; there are many many people who want to meet up. there are people on here who met on here and then got married, people on here who went to live with each other after meeting, there are people here who live in the same city and meet every week or more.

I actually tried the school newspaper this past semester, but left it after about 5 weeks... I just couldn't handle the article writing on top of the course workload and all the church stuff I do... and it's not like I could just leave me church. Sure, everybody there is either under 18 or over 40, but they are the only group in real life that accepts me as I am, without any preconditions...

Look, most people don't judge me from the getgo unless I did something to deserve it (usually something stupid). But I get along just fine and I'm pretty quirky myself. I think you just need to settle down and relax.

Ana54:
That really isn't going to help here. The man looks like he actually needs some honest-to-god real life interactions. From my experience with the internet, your expectations can be somewhat different then reality. And it can actually be a lot more uncomfortable meeting someone off the internet than actually meeting them in person.