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First off I just want to say that my parents are very kind and caring. They help me out financially, they get me services that I need and they help me out with having somewhere to live, food, clothing, etc. I'm 21 by the way still waiting to hear when my appartment will be ready.

You might read this and think to yourself. Sounds like a happy family, what's wrong?

Two things.

1. My parents ask me personal questions about my life that is none of their personal business even though they think that they are helping so they can approve something in my life that I don't know about even though it doesn't need approving.

For example.................

Today I got up at 1pm, I come down stairs hoping that one of my parents aren't going to question me about it. They did and I whispered under my breath (What the F*** or Jesus's name in vain or something cursy)

or at the dinner tablle, random personal questions will come up
"How much you way? Did you gain or did you lose? Go up right now before you eat, then come down and tell us then mark it".


My parents know that I'm 21 but they are starting to question me personally more and more because 1. I have Asperger's and they consider me unperdictable and 2. I'm going to be living on my own.

Every little concern they have ends with "What's going to happen when you live on your own." Oh, I wished that I can scream at them so they can back off but that pisses them off even more so.


Another thing is our personalties are different

Based on the Myerrs Briggs Personality Test

I am ENFP and they are ISTP or ISTJ so you can see how stressful that is.



I guess they are trying to help so I have to keep that in mind and answer calmly to their stupid questions.

It sounds like they think they're trying to help.

I was prepared to tell you that your parents were legitimately concerned (ie: if they were asking you where you were going - if you were going out at night). That's a good safety measure and it's worthwhile telling someone where you're going so that there's backup.

Unfortunately, questions about your weight and directions to go weigh and tell are too intrusive.

You could start asking them their weight, age and movements to see how they like it or you could simply sit down and have a nice cosy chat about being an adult and being owed some privacy on these matters.

Getting angry with them probably won't make much difference.

I visit my Mother (the only parent who I don't live with and I'm close too) every other weekend and I go visit my best friend up in RI. I can't live with my mother because she lives under low-income plus I'm moving out of my parents house in a few months.

I feel each time that I go back home, I have the feeling that my parents are going to question me about something or they were sneaking around my room trying to discover something about me to question.

They tell me that they respect me and don't go in my room or they just go in my room just to clean it even though I keep it neat and clean already.

NAG NAG NAG! That's what I get from them. Sometimes I want to scream in their face. Sometimes I worry about them Nagging so much so that they never do it.

Sometimes they will ask me something horrably personal just for their own curiousity.

My parents are TWO FACED! I'm not ashamed of saying that! But I'm 2 faced towards them too!

My parents are trying to help and do the best for me.

It's either I like them or I HATE THEM!

2 Faced Family!

It's good that you're planning to move out of your parents house then.
At least they won't be able to get to you as much.

I'm 40 now and my parents still nag me.

My parents are probably going to nag at me when I live on my own. I bet everyones parents do. But since I'm Trigendered, I bet they will be even more concern unfortunatly. They don't understand me and I don't understand them but I guess they still support me so I just have to take in the positive as much as I can. But it's so hard to.

It would be very hard for parents to accept trigendered offspring because it's so different. I'd guess that it's not like having a "gay" son where they can at least find a lot of other parents in the same position. In that sense, it's very good that they have accepted you.

I can see how this would also make them worried that someone would take offence and hurt you or try to take advantage of you. They're probably being overprotective (which can be very annoying).