Um...hello? I don't like him.

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How is the best way to describe the situation? I don't know. The whole thing is completely alien to me.

Today, for the first time since I came back to school, was great. Until of course a friend comes up a lunchtime to inform me that a bunch of people are now under the impression that I am attracted to guy in my class. Yeah, that screwed up the rest of my day.

Having my friends assume I am attracted to someone is one thing, since I (somewhat) trust them not to start any stupid rumors. But trust people I hardly know not to do something like that? Not so much.

This is what I hate about teenagers (even though I am one). They all seem so ready to assume that one person is attracted to another without really stopping to think about the situation. I'll admit that there have been times when I've said and done stupid things, but it never crosed my mind that it would be percieved as this.

Oh, and don't forget that I am asexual. A fact which most of my friends seem to both forget and remember at random intervals.

I enjoy having this guy as a friend, but if this is what I have to deal with I think I might as well drop the idea. Because god knows I don't need any more stress (I'm already on the brink of depression).

That sucks.

That you're asexual, I mean.













Seriously, just get the message through and you'll be fine.

Don't lose a friend over something this stupid. If he's a decent guy keep him as a friend and just keep right on with your life.

Depending on how close you are to him you could possibly say something to the effect of, "hey, I heard there's a rumor going around about us. I don't know who started it, but I just want you to know that I'm not interested in romantic relationships at the moment." (You don't want to get his "hopes" up.)

The rumor should die away after the idiots see that you guys aren't drooling over each other, don't worry about what other people may/may not think on this.

being manipulated by whomever started the rumor is what sucks the most.
why let them have so much power? Just do your thing. After a while they leave you alone.

Merle

I know that giving up a friendship because of some stupid rumor is pathetic, but the idea of having people think I am attracted to someone I'm not and acutally having people confront me about it is pretty terrifying.

Though, I think that is getting me more worked up is the fact that no one seems to be willing to accept the fact that I am asexual, I have anxiety and I am not a people person. Hell, my friends came up with the idea I was attracted to him simply because he is the only person outside our group who I talk to without start an arguement. Then when they start attacking me about it, they assume that because I look embarassed and nervous I must like him.

Like I said before, I am not a people person. I don't like being the centre of attention, and when I have a whole bunch of people looking at me I do get nervous, and I do grin alot and look embarassed and nervous. This happens when I am giving a speech, talking to someone I don't know, that sort of thing

Its tough enough being a teenage, anxiety-ridden, asexual aspie without people assuming I am attracted to somebody who I am not. I don't think I will be able to sit with my friends on Monday, because if they bring up this stupid rumor again I think I might be tempted to throw something at them

Funny, they are perfectly accepting of gay or bisexual people, but they can't seem to accept the idea of being asexual