I need some advice.....

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OK, well my girlfriend is depressed. You see, for like a week or two each summer she goes down to the shore to do this sailing thing. Its the love of her life basically. She has a huge, whole other group of friends that do it too, and she misses them. She also has a really good friend who is her boyfriend when she is down there. She really does like me, she told me herself, but she misses him, she misses her sailing thing, and she's just depressed. We are still dating because we both have feelings for each other, but it just really hurts to see her this sad. She really misses her whole group of friends from sailing. She doesn't see them at all outside of it, since they all live really far away. She's just depressed, she misses them......ya.

I need some advice. It kills me to see her so down, and I just want her to be happy. Anybody have any advice? Because her being sad is taking its toll on me too, I can't stand it to see a friend sad. I'm not sad because my girlfriend is sad, I'm sad because a really close friend is sad. We are more like best friends then girlfriend/boyfriend really.

So....Anyone have any advice? I don't know how to cheer her up, and she has a history with depression and I'm kinda scared she might try something she'll regret...

I can't understand how you'd be comfortable with that. Maybe her other boyfriend can comfort her...
You know her better than we do. Can you take her sailing or something? Show her a good time maybe.
Good luck.

Has she seen anybody for the depression, since you say she's had it before? Maybe she could go back and get another prescription for whatever she was on last time?

I've been on prozac, celexa and another one whose name I've blocked out. I loved the prozac and am doing well now on the celexa. The other one stank for me - bad side effects.

I do like the idea TheMidnightJudge suggested of taking her sailing. Why did she not see her sailing buddies this year, anyway? Something that also could have depressed her, like being sick or having a sick loved one?

I am just comfortable with that. She doesn't see him any time outside the one/two weeks she does her sailing thing. She is part of some program and every summer for a while she goes sailing with a ton of other kids. She sees them every summer, but she really misses them.

As for whether she's seen anybody for depression, I'm not sure. She's told me she sees a therapist for some reasons I'd rather not discuss, but thats all I know of.

BTW, I have no idea how to sail, or even own a boat, or know exactly where on the NJ shore she goes sailing. I do know we both go to the same area, but I'm not sure what area or if I'll be down at the shore for vacation the week she is with her sailing buddies.