Did you get in trouble for back-chatting

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When I was growing up if I ever answered back I would get slapped and sent to my room. It use to make me so angry because sometimes I was right and I knew they was wrong. I use to cry for extra long time just to get on my mom nerves and she would say "keep it up and I will give you hit you again and give you a reason to cry." As I got older I got bashed for back chatting. It doesn't seem fair.

Even once I had a boyfriend and I said something to him and he goes "you cheeky little b***h" and I runaway. What is it with back-chatting that people don't like. Isn't it just expressing your opinion.

Yeah this happened to me too as a child.
My father always wanted me to back talk at him because he thought it was a sign that I was smart (not smart-ass), but in school students/teachers hated me when I back-talked.

I quickly learned that most people didn't want your opinion when ranting/venting.

Sometimes a teacher will tell me off for something, and I'll say what actually happened, and I get accused of backchatting. So do they think I should just accept unfair punishment when it wasn't what it looked like?!

That didn't happen to me as a child. My Mom's partner said he hated smart arses so I soon learnt not to be one. At school I never said that much.

I had some of what you describe. Yep, you are so right about it being painful.

definately and i never realized why i was being in trouble or why people didnt like it i assumed when people talked wouldnt they want a response?

I got accused of swearing AT someone on the phone when I was enquiring about an order and they wanted more info. She said, "If you don't stop swearing at me I will have to end the call!" My response was, "I am not swearing at you, if I was, you'd know about it. Swearing at an action is different compared to swearing at them" so I got so enraged I just hung up.

Why would someone ask a question if they don't want an answer? Being young, the reason behind it seems stupid. Correcting someone seems to be wrong and then declaring that you was the one back-chatting.

You know, I'm almost used to receiving this illogical treatment from adults, but once I was accused of it by another pupil! What?

It was in groupwork in RE, and I hadn't been there last lesson and they were preparing for the presentation. I realise by this point there wasn't much I could be expected to do, but I saw that whoever had done the writing had made the mistake that pisses me off the most: putting "buddhas" instead of "buddhists" (long story why this gets to me so much). So I respectfully pointed out the mistake, and the girl says, "If you're just gonna be arguing and BACKCHATTING us you can just go in another group!" I was outraged; just who does she think she is?!

I have been accused of arguing before and when I was 12, I was accused of being disrespectful.

Now I try not to correct people at work or else they call it arguing. If you correct someone, you are basically disagreeing with them. That's what an argument is.

Some people just can't handle being directed or talked back at.
In my family it's usualy my dad, sometimes I don't say anything back cause it's so ridicules, and other times I say something back, and I am always 100% rigth, and he gets pissed of telling me to shut up, he just simply can't argue :-/
Really sad

I am always accused of it.
Because when someone says something which is wrong it is so frustrating to allow them to say it without interrupting and telling them the truth.
I think that the only real solution is to assess whether or not the person accusing you has any authority over you.
If not say what you want.
However if they do have some sort of authority I find that is usuall better to say absolutely nothing.
Unless prompted of course!

I think that's the NT parenting method that just doesn't work for aspies. Most parents instinctively refuse to bargain/reason with a child because they assume the child might take it as a way to manipulate the parent in order to get what they want. That’s not how aspies use reason though. We just want fairness. We like to know why we have to follow some rule. Most NT's operate in an authoritarian mode unfortunately.

yes. i agree with you mashall.
i have been accused of backchat in the past as well. but my parents would say "don't be smart"

My parents are now fine with me telling them the truth however I had problems with teachers at school

I didn't have problem with Teachers because I never spoke to them.

My teachers hated me, too many opinions for there liking.

I kind of disagree with this. I think if someone has some kind of authority over you or anyone else it's even more imperative that they don't go around talking crap. However I have been told I have problems with authority so maybe that explains why I think that.