My sister is pregant again and my future with women

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It has been about over a year since my sister (and eldest sibling) Marjory had a baby boy named Robert. She is getting pregant and she is due to have another child in September. I am proud of my sister no less, but I think she should have waited about another year or two before she has another child. She has been nothing but a great mother so I will give her loads of props for that.

Out of all three kids (my brother has a child of his own although unwed), I am the only one who has yet to even have a meaningful realtionship with a woman. I have not done the deed yet and I am twenty-six years old. Sure, I might have a huge chip on my shoulder, but I am not going to give up on finding a woman (whether disabled or NT) no matter what people told me. I think the big turn off for them is that I still live my parents and I have a low-paying job (although we are in economic resession).

So far I have only dated five people in my lifetime (3 disabled and 2 NTers), yet the relationships I was in were with disabled people. I have nothing against the disabled (because I am one myself), but I just don't picture myself having a serious relationship with a person with a disablity.

The question is: Should I be more focused on having a realtionship with a regular person or person with disablities?

You should focus more on personality more than Neurological condition. If you meet someone you genuienly want to be with does being NT or not matter?

Sure, a disabled girl is often more appreciative of your attention to them, and more understanding of your foibles, than an NT girl. But a disabled girl is still a girl, and thus all the problems that come with boy/girl relationships still will happen with her. Don't be fooled by the crutches. She will still constantly ask you where your relationship is going and b***h you out for eating peanut butter straight out of the jar. Um, just as a hypothetical, of course.

So, how to find a girlfriend? Honestly, you have to stop looking for one. The attitude of "I want to have a girlfriend" leads you to start relationships with pretty much the first girl who likes you enough to have one with you. Occasionally, it turns out she's the one you stay with forever, but usually it doesn't. Because you saw a girlfriend, but you didn't see her. And you realize one day, or she does, that you're more unhappy than you are lonely.

So what do you do instead? Well, that's the hard part. See, you have to value yourself as a person, in and of yourself. You don't eat when you're full, and you don't seek out shallow and destructive relationships when you don't need others to validate you. And THAT is the b***h of it, cause self esteem doesn't grow on trees. And I can't help you with a post. But you can PM me if you like.

What I was trying to say is that I am improving myself as of now, but what I need is a NTer to have a realtionship. It can be done as my friend from high school Jake married a NTer and currently has a child, so I just don't see why I should not.

You are right though that I should not be wasting my time trying to find love. Right now, I just do not have time find it as I am busy with work and my website I am currently doing which is the Super Nostlagic Bros. website for MySpace and a webshow which I am going to film with a few of my good friends starting on Valentine's Day.

Thanks for your help and I will move on with my life. I will stick by with what I was trying to say as I want to still find a NTer to be friends and hopefully lead to something more. I do have self confidence in myself, therefore, I will get what I want as long as I work hard at focusing that goal.