feeling a bit depressed

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I'm starting uni in September and I am really looking forward to it.
I went for a course open day yesterday and I really do love it there.

But the thing that's getting to me is leading an independant life... without my family.. my mother especially.

I love my mum so much and I don't want to leave.

My fear gets to the point where I'm terrified she's going to die and I could never deal with that.
I'm terrified she'll die while I'm at uni.

I know I've got to become more independant but I really am upset about the whole issue.
Whenever I think about my mum, I think about what life would be like if she was dead and I just cry.

She is the most amazing woman in my life and I don't want to spend a day without her

It may well be that I am worried about the whole change with going to uni but my fear and anxiety comes down to being away from my mum and scared that she'll die.

Charlie

I've heard that feeling that way is very common.
I wouldn't know, and I envy you.

why's that?

Just the idea of having someone who cares about you and treats you well. I didn't get that.

I found this on google. Is it useful?
http://www.personal-development.com/chu ... -death.htm

Maybe the answer has something to do with living out her best hopes for you. All that she has done for you has been with the idea that you would someday stand alone and live a good life. Maybe if you talk to her about her hopes and dreams for you, something will click, and her strength will become yours?

That site was really good, very inspirational, thank you for sharing that

what you said about talking to her is a good idea. Maybe I should tell her my fears too.

I'm sorry that you didn't feel that you had someone to care for you... like a mother/father etc, I really do feel for you because I couldn't imagine being in your shoes

Talking to her could help. Also, maybe you could arrange very regular visits for her at first (plus phonecalls etc.), then go from there.