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For the past three days I have been constantly drinking
i don't like it but i'm becoming an alcoholic at twenty.
I've drank more in january then i did last year.

why are you drinking so much? do you feel better when you drink? (I live with an alcoholic, I can share some insights into the inside life of an alcoholic and the tragedy, pain, and torment it can cause)

I drink because it helps me forget everything.
I feel normal when i'm drunk.

My dad drinks for the same reason, he ended up in the hospital because he drank so much he killed a couple organs. He was in the hospital for a couple months, lost his job, and drank s'more when he got out because he lost his job. You can't live drunk, and just because it makes you feel good, doesn't mean it's good for you. Forgetting everything isn't a good thing I like remembering what happened today . also, normality isn't something I personally strive for. it's not something to be cherished or adored, it's not an endearing trait in a person. Just be yourself, it's better to be yourself then to pretend to be someone you're not =\

I can't be myself because i don't know who i am.
That may sound emo but its true

You can't really "try" to be yourself, you just are, the way you think, act, dress, make decisions. That's all you, nothing defines you as a human being, no styles, no songs, nothing. You are just you. You can't expect to find yourself as soon as you start to grow up. And knowing who you are takes a long time. I'm going to be twenty five in a week and I don't really know who I am. But i like being me, I like my friends and my family and I like the decisions I make in life. Finding yourself isn't one defining event in life that everyone remembers, it's an accumulation of memories emotions, stories and adventures. It's lessons that you've learned from and mistakes, and regrets. Drinking doesn't define you as a person, either. Sorry if that sounds weird, I kind of think weird sometimes.

Homer Simpson - "Beer! Now there's a temporary solution".

You may think that drinking makes you feel normal. Drinking shuts down all the thoughts or feelings that you don't like to deal with. So drinking makes you feel and think less.

The only thing that alcohol will do to you in the short term is shut you down. In the long run, you'll be waking up in strange places, vomiting on a regular basis, hearing about things you've said and done that you don't remember... There are more horror story aspects if you need them. Just ask

The crucial point is : your problems will come back when you stop drinking. You will eventually have to deal with life. Better now than as a recovering alcoholic in ten years... or twenty?

It may look like all bad news, but surely you can imagine a time when you can cope without alcohol? When you 'feel normal' without it? Its not only possible, its certain. People are designed to live without it.

drinking may drive out the bad feelings but it doesn't work for long.
the feelings will come back unless they are dealt with.

if you feel like you are becoming an alcoholic, it would be a good idea to seek outside help,
like a counsellor to help with all the problems, and AA meetings for the drinking issue.

Hey Emile,

I didn't drink any alcohol until I was 21, and then I partied for a few months. Yes, alcohol can make social situations bearable, but it has huge drawbacks.

The best thing I did for myself was to consciously stop beating myself up because I don't function like "normal" people. I also stopped constantly pushing myself into situations that made me uncomfortable.

Give yourself a break. Go easy on yourself. You can be a great friend to yourself if you allow enough space to be you.

you do not have to know anything about yourself in order to be who you are.
you are always who you are whether or not you like it or understand it.

it is easy to sleep when you know that no matter what you think of yourself, you are still you without alteration.

Exapand my brain learning juice!

Well, it's not an age thing. I still can't say I trust myself that much around alcohol socially, I can and still will get falling down drunk, and I guess would say I was well on the way to alcoholism in my early 20's. What helps if you don't want to?
Well, in my case (maybe not necessarily of use to you) don't beat yourself up for the occasions you have got drunk-in your case it's a month, not wasted years so you can turn it round. Have projects and things to do that you need to be sober for the evening to enjoy and complete, even if it's just cooking a complicated recipe, making music compilations, reading etc. I started evening study, and found that filled otherwise empty hours, and didn't leave time for self reflection. The social aspects of study tend to be focussed to whatever you are studying, and therefore "easier". Don't buy alcohol to keep at home either, it's just waiting for you and a low moment...

A month is an easier pattern to break, if you want to. All the best

L

Who were you? Was there a good time that's been lost?
What is your special interest? Did you outgrow one and not yet find a new one?

I don't drink that often, but I kind of prefer myself when I've been drinking.

It makes certain things about life easier to deal with... and improves my abilities in certain areas. That is it impairs me in certain ways... but it eliminates my horrible analysis paralysis that ruins so much I try to do.

That describes much of me...

For me, it's not a "paralysis." It's who I am. It's not a disease, it's the cure.
If someone says, "you think too much," or anything along those lines, I walk away.
Someone like that is just a mindless creature who is not worth talking to and can't be trusted in any situation, on any issue. It's an NT-bias. The attitude "don't think, just obey" is a disease. It's a soul-crushing form of oppression that should not be tolerated.
Think! And let your inner geek shine.

The perfect world, marred only by the fact that it costs money and gas.
Something interesting for a change, valuable for its own sake, and you get to talk about it with real people.

Something just made me think of a hermit crab. I think that's what I am.
My special interests are like shells that I can shed when I outgrow them.
Hermit crabs can sometimes be seen streaking, but it is very bad for them.

Emile & Pugley -- have you been streaking?

I do enjoy the overthinking about the topics I enjoy. But what I'm talking about is something different. I think to the point that I talk myself out of taking action. It's so hard for me to make a decision on anything unless I've weighed all the options.

The worst is when I think about something and then eventually forget what I originally needed to do and move onto something else. Overthinking mixed with distractibility... a horrible combination.

I've found that sometimes a bit of Alcohol does help this... it makes me more active and driven to accomplish things that I would otherwise not do.

I've never been streaking... as far as I know. I did spend an inordinate amount of time naked as a kid though...