Diagnosis and labels: A blessing???

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Thinking about all the crap I endured as a kid; feeling different from the rest of the kids at school, living life as an alien, people asking why I had green furry tentacles, and me never having an answer... it sucked.

And now I do have an answer to give them, I do have a response. I am an 'alien'. But nothing's changed. Does this surgically remove my feelers? No. So what is the benefit of knowing I'm an alien? What is the purpose of calling myself an alien.

My heart feels sad because I know that all that comes of this is the knowledge that I'll never fit in. Sometimes I wish I'd never figured it out. I've never been able to find a purpose for the label. Does anyone else feel the same?

Sar

I don't know if I specifically like the label but I much prefer knowing to ignorance I wasn't diagnosed till I was 18 and I spent all that time so confused and at least I know why and if I still get harrassed for my oddness or yelled at for an incorrect tone tha I was unaware of, then I know it's gtheir problem not mine. I find people who are still mean about it were jerks in tyhe first place so no change there but being able to explain has gained me a lot more acceptance.

Having a name for what I deal with, and an official diagnosis, would be helpful. I'm self-diagnosed and sometimes feel like I don't have the right to refer to myself as an Aspie, because despite my certainty about it, there's still a chance that I'm wrong. It'd be nice to be able to at least talk about it without guilt or apprehension.

Self-knowledge and using that self-knowledge to craft work-arounds so one can get along better in an NT dominated world is useful. You might need to grieve first, but ultimately self-knowledge will help you figure out the world and where you can fit in it.

Being able to find these solutions would be really nice.

I've just dedicated years of my life to completing a uni degree, and my distinction average buys me interviews, but as soon as I get there my social awkwardness gets in the way :/ I've got a label for why this occurs, but I don't know, as far as I can see it doesn't bring with it any solutions or alternatives.

As for figuring out the world - having a name has just made me feel more separated and confused..

I'm sorry.