My eyebrows always looked angry.

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I have always had to deal with people telling me that I looked like I, " Wanted to kill someone". I could never control that, I've learned to just deal with it, and have gotten good at not intimidating new people. I just, after five years, overcame that... got my first girlfriend, got confidence back in my appearance to some extent... realized that my old friends were pretty much douche bags that just tried to put me down, and things were looking good.

Now myself, my friends, and my family are utterly convinced that I have at least aspergers or PDD-NOS, and that my dad is probably far worse. And as I realize that all of the things I thought were normal throughout my life are in fact very odd... and I try to apply a meaning to them. So far I believe that I have just approached all social things in my life in an analytical manner. Which is really only effective online, as peoples typing "tones" and styles alter when their opinions change. So in person I never really know what the hell is going on, but I thought I did to some extent. And I'm probably just wrong all together about interpreting people.

And now I'm thinking about things like why I sort of laugh when I feel like crying, and how the things that make me feel like that come to be. I can't tell if I feel the emotions properly to begin with anymore, and when I ask my seemingly normal friends about it they give me a moon man response and when they repeat it how they understand it I have to clarify... then they just seem to not have a comment.

This is a lot to take in, and now apparently I have more to worry about than just my eyebrows betraying me all the time.

I can relate to all of this, including the eyebrows, though I haven't mastered how to not look intimidating. I'm still learning a lot about AS too, and noticing that a lot of things I've just taken as odd quirks of mine are things that a lot of other people do, and in some cases, are associated with Asperger's. Someone on WP pointed out that my compulsive nail picking/biting/clipping might be considered stimming and it suddenly dawned on me that I'd never even considered the possibility.

AS is nothing to "worry" about, just deal with.

I'm 42 and only got diagnosed last fall... but in retrospect it should have been obvious, with several "symptoms" similar to yours.

Outside of problems Job Hunting, I've really found no downside.

So, if I/you can "survive" AS without being diagnosed, think of how much better it will be being ale to analyze somthing concrete?

I can't turn off eyebrow thing either, I just manage it by being very conscious of it. This doesn't work that well at all though... only when I am talking to people one on one. Any I think picking at my hair/beard and playing with my screwed up shoulder all qualify as stims, but I still don't fully understand the concept.

Something I did notice though is that if I find a girl genuinely attractive I subconsciously look less intimidating. That was weird when I first found out, now it's probably more weird, or weirder.

Don't suppose you're of German/Italian heritage too? :p

I'm still unsure about the picking. I'd run across some info that indicated that it can be, but I'm not sure whether mine is legitimate annoyance with certain hairs or stimulating. I often pick at my eyelashes, but they're also really long and it feels like they're poking my eye sometimes.

Italian/Sicilian ... so technically just Italian. And I think my beard picking is more stress related, but it fits the criteria for stimming I guess. I often don't realize I do it, and it serves no purpose outside of a somewhat OCD feel. When I find a hair that feels weird or awkward I have to rip it out... think it's more because the hair obstructs the flow of the picking. So every time I zone out the weird hair zones me back in on it.

Shave them off and just paint them back on the way you like, like the ladys do Sorry I cant be of any help, I do know a guy that shaves his big uni-brow, so he doesnt look so funny.

schweet, If my face wasnt so friendly maybe would leave me alone