My boyfriend doesn't love me anymore... : (

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I know I'm probably over-reacting, but this is the very first time in two years that my boyfriend has not made up after arguing with me. We made a goal to always leave on a good note with each other every night, and we had until tonight. I don't even understand. Our arguement tonight was over nothing. He couldn't even remember how it even started. He's just in a really bad mood. We spent eight minutes on the phone totally silent (with the exception of his annoyed breathing). I eventually hung up and called him back an hour later. He got mad at me and hung up on me. That was over two hours ago and it's now 11:20 PM. He hasn't PM'd be on YouTube like he usually does and I know he's still awake and he's not busy as he doesn't have school or anything tomorrow...

Like I said, this is the very first time we've ever left off on a bad note in two years. Our relationship is extremely important to the both of us and we've planned every little detail out about our futures.

Seriously, I'm silently crying right now. I still can't believe this even happened over nothing. We've gotten in absolutely horrid arguements before and we've always made up and acted like nothing's happened. I have no idea what went wrong tonight. He doesn't know either, so I have no idea.

hang in there. boyfriends and girlfriends fight ALL the time. it's normal. move out. move back in again. fight. make up.

I know, but this time it's so different from the other times. I mean, we've been in arguements where I've screamed at him so much, my throat was sore for the next 24 hours. But we've always made up quickly, and well before the end of the day. This time we're not and I'm really upset about it. I sent him a PM but he hasn't gotten back to me yet...

Not that I know personally but this kind of thing happens occasionally. He may still send you a message and make up tonight. If not, he may do it tomorrow. I can understand how you must feel though. Even I know that the first time this kind happens in any relationship it's heart breaking, especially in a two year relationship.

Just give it some time okay?

This is my fourth relationship and he is the very first person I've ever truly loved. I love him to death and I know he feels the same for me. It's just really upsetting seeing this happen. I never thought I'd see the day, especially today of all days. We didn't even get that much of a chance to talk this afternoon because his mom was using the phone for hours. So it's not like we're tired of each other today in particular.

Yeah, I can only guess how hard this must be for you. I can tell you truly love him (I'm so envious of guys that have a woman who loves them like that). He's a lucky guy.

The only other thing I know to say is that I hope everything is resolved well. True love seems to work things out.

Lighting, aspies cannot repair conversations and cannot manage conflict. HOW DO YOU manage conflict? do you have the skills to negotiate with people or do you just yell at them? or do you just give them that killer smile of yours?

Try not to fret too much. I've had this happen before, and sometimes it just takes time. I know it's difficult to wait, but that's really the only viable option. Having NVLD versus AS, I've found it's a little easier to manage conflict, but it's still very confusing.

Everything worked out!

Here's what had happened: So I had sent him that PM on YouTube, telling him how sad I was by the whole situation and stuff. Apparently, he was very, very surprised by this, thinking I was going to send him something angry. He didn't know I wasn't angry at all, but rather upset and a bit nervous. He eventually called me back around midnight and we talked about the whole thing. Apparently, he had a lot of anger built up over a week which he had wanted to release before. But it's fine now.

You know, even though he doesn't have a diagnosis, he's very ASish. He even admits himself that he probably does have it. He can be very shy around new people, but he is *extremely* outgoing to me at least.

That's typicaly about what we do. We do go to extremes sometimes, but we try not to let that happen. Last week, we got really mad at each other and my mom rudely butted in and started screaming at me, which got me extremely mad at her. She actually went as far as to getting the duct tape out and chasing me up to my room, where she tried for ten minutes straight to unlock my door (I was holding it down). It was actually very scary. My boyfriend, even though we were mad at each other at first) took my side right away.

I figured it might. These things take a little bit of time every once in a while. Glad things are okay.