UNFAIR!! !! !! !

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This kind of thing may of been done before.

Through out my life people have been unfair to me conpaired to other people.

One example is I got excluded from school for tipping over a plate.
In comparison I have a friend who cut somone's ear open and didn't even get a warning.

and now the same friend is going to mainstream collage whilst It seems that I will still be in the Special part.. though doing a two hour part in programming.

Has any one had simular experiences and any resons why this is and how to cope

My experience is that people will give more breaks to people they like, while outcasts like me (and I imagine, many aspies) they don't give any breaks to. Just my perspective, though.

I get it alot, and always have. My family does some of it.

It is like that to aspies. Even I have experienced the unfairness of neurotypicals for example in the 1960s 70s and 1980s and even before people who have an ASD would have been deported to a concentration camp (what people would have termed put into long stay hospital). My parents were not fair to me as a child. No one was and when I was growing up I was not even thought of as well as children are today. So life is not fare for an Asperger syndrome person. for those born in the 1990's things will get better though. For an Asperger syndrome person born in 1966 it will never improve until I die perhaps of old age in a few decades time.

I'm reminded straight away of an unfortunate incident that happened at work. Work is difficult for me because of the way the sense of humour is there. There's a very dry sense of humour, and even though people must realise this type of communication is a struggle for me, they persist with a dry sense of humour.

This workplace really demands a dry sense of humour and the one time I attempted to imitate that by trying a dry joke with a co-worker, I fell foul. He was trying to choose between a red and a green pen. So I asked "Are you colourblind"?

Now... I know that anyone else would have got away with that. But this guy complained about me to the boss, who brought us together for a session where I had to apologise formally to the guy.

On SEVERAL occasions since then I have witnessed people make jokes about colourblindness in front of him. He's not said a word or reported them.

But the reason for the difference in reactions must be down to two things. One, just that I find the sense of humour difficult to communicate amongst when most people can naturally. Two, I am so literal all the time, people know that and notice that, so didn't expect the sort of joke I made.

I guessed that it would have happened to many aspies but the friend I speak of has AS as part of his Diagnosis and he sees it too

at the risk of stating the obvious, life's not fair.. it is not inherent in NT human nature to strive for fairness as far as i have seen, indeed they tend to follow a strong male like many pack animals.
that said another gem is "There is no fate, but what we make" from T2 &my mother
we on WP can affect some small change in global perspective by being fair &honest with each other, thus leading by example..
or we could try to take over the world & imprison NT's? hmm..

I know life not fair but It's being compartivly unfair to me.

also aspies taking over the world... works for me