Fight with my favorite aunt. Hate her guts now.

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f*****g B@tch I swear. Never picked up the phone after I called her like 12 times last week. It's not like she's a girl my age thats f@cked in the head and thinks guys should only call her 2 days after they meet or else hes a *stalker scary guy* NO! SHE SAID I COULD CALL HER 24/7 AND THAT SHE'S AVAILIABLE ANYTIME. Now, she's like...let me put this in perspective...you live by yourself while I've got a nephew on drugs, a niece with adhd, a lot of sick people in my family, 3 kids, a husband, 5 grandkids blah blah blah blah blah. She's all rude about it, further proving my point when I called her rude. God, I'll never trust a woman again after this. If I can't trust Jan, I cant and won't trust any woman. They're all the same dammit. I don't care how beautiful you are. I really don't.

never called me back even though I called her 12 times. I never did anything to this B@tch. I've always been kind to her. It's always the ones you love who hurt you the most.

well, of course the people you love hurt the most, if we didn't love them, we wouldn't care.

Merle

It sounds like she wants to be available to you anytime, but she's having her own overload issues. No matter how caring a person is, there have to be points where they can't take care of everything! It would be useful to know what your concern was when you called her, and how long you waited before calling again.

I myself don't have "nephew on drugs, a niece with adhd, a lot of sick people in my family, 3 kids, a husband, 5 grandkids". That would be too much for me right there. I can barely keep sane with my own lesser issues. If I had all that going on in my life, I would be screaming, slamming, throwing, and stalking out all the time. My blood pressure would go so high, I'd do like a cartoon thermometer that explodes out the top. Think about how it would be for you if every time you turned around somebody was in your face desperately needing something from you, and your full attention. And being the go-to person for everybody's troubles. Women are expected to be the big nurterer, and most of us fall into that pattern more than we should. Even I do. But I need plenty of alone time to maintain my sanity, and it sounds as if she probably isn't getting any!

Without knowing why you needed to talk to her so urgently, I would suggest maybe leaving her a message to get back to you when she can, with maybe a hint of what it's about, and then go play some computer games or crank up your headphones with some good Bach or something. That always gets my brainwaves properly aligned, anyway.

Are you like 13? You are acting like it from your post. We all have problems.

I understand you need to talk and find help in solutions to your problems but maybe you should not be laying them on one person. She sounds like she does have enough going on. She is probably a care giving person and said to call her anytime because she does want to help. But... I would ask you how long have you been calling her and talking? How often do you call her? once a day? three times a week or month? how long do you talk? Maybe it is you who is abusing her offer? Maybe you are demanding so much of her time with the "oh look how neglected, misunderstood, mistreat, how hard it is for me, what do i do" dialogue. Loved ones can really get tired of being used quickly. I don't mind helping people with problem to find their best options and make suggestions but when I see a clingy, needy person who just wants to whine for hours and not make any real effort to change and hounds me for my time and attention endlessly, I run the other way.

Have you ever called and asked if there was anything you could do for her?
Maybe if you need a lot of time and attention you need to see a councilor on a regular basis.

And how utterly childish is it to say you won't trust half the human population because of her, you are giving her a lot of power in your life to be able to do that.

Basically get off the pity pot and get proactive to fix your self - ain't no one gonna do it for you.

Alright. Yep. I was kind of out of line that day and for this, I apologize for making a scene. Oh well. It happens. Lets move on.

trust is difficult

It might not have been the greatest thing to say to you, but she probably lost her patience, people sometimes have fits of rage when their really stressed out. They often feel like taking it back though. And it does subside.

I'm curious why you say you'll never trust women, why not men? is it gender specific to who you can trust?

It's true though what you said about calling girls up right away, you always have to worry about going overboard with most girls because their so sensitive. Now guys could care less, unless its some really obnoxious girl.

Alright. I just apologized over email and got a forgiving response. Everything seems good now.

Happy to hear that. We all have our days.