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How am i expected to go through this, my parents have no patience for me anymore, they change the rules when others come over, i dont feel loved here, and yet they do alot for me why is this? I dont know how i should handle this im 15 granted, but im not that old i dont know what to do, i dont show my emotions to them anymore because last time i did that i wound up in a Mental Institution, because thats what my doctor said would be best because i showed the emotions! I cant handle this, its too much?!?!

let your emotions loose here I at least won't judge and other poeple here should understand.


spill and i shall asorb

It's a sad day when a person is ashamed of their child, just because they have AS or Autism, why should I sit there in my home acting towards there rules when they're just ashamed of me?

PM me if you like, I'm a good listener. Parents are hard, and there's so little you can do about them.

... maybe they do alot for you because they love you, but they just don't know how they can help? i know its probably not the same for everyone but my parents used to feel just like that

You are certainly in an unenviable position, but not a hopeless one. It certainly would make a huge difference if you parents listened to you rather than the doctor who suggested you be institutionalized. Your frustration and confusion are understandable and a normal reaction to circumstances like yours. This forum really is a great place to find someone to listen to and understand you.

However, I'm also sensing you are only telling us part of the story - the part where you get to be the victim. There is nothing wrong with that, and I can tell because I've done the same. The problem is doing this keeps you stuck as the victim rather than claiming your power. Another problem is that you didn't say things I think could be helpful. [EDIT - strike this] For example, have you been dx'ed with AS or other PDD? [End Edit]. Why were you institutionalized? (Aside from showing "the emotions!") I'm not suggesting you give your life's story or tell us things you would rather not.

I admit I may be completely wrong and I realize my strong tone may not be appropriate for a 15 year old. I think if I were to talk to you as a 15 year old and tell you how bad I think your situation is that it would not help you. With AS, the good news is you have the ability to adapt to society and still maintain your uniqueness. Part of what you are dealing with is what every teenager deals with, which is finding out who you are and how you fit in. In the end, you are who you say you are. You are far more powerful than you realize and far more capable than you imagine.

I think it's important you find someone to talk with who understands AS and who understands you; your reaching out in your post is an excellent step. People in this forum are great resources. I also think you should consider some form of therapy from a practitioner who deals with and understands AS and other autistic spectrum disorders. I wasted many years being a victim and blaming others and I don't wish that kind of life for anyone, and certainly not for you. Good luck to you.

** EDIT ** I see you were dx'd AS from your other post (Someone please tell me?). Must be the ADHD in me.

Can you give us an example of the unfair rules?