Are you friends with people you knew in school?

Page 2 of 2 [ 27 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2

Sora
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 Sep 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,906
Location: Europe

29 Apr 2012, 1:09 pm

I'm friends with someone from my 5th school, from some 6 years ago or so.

I mostly lost contact - I'm prone to loosing contact for no reason - with other friends from the same year who're still friends with each other and friends with my friends. I see them occasionally when they happen to be where I also got invited to and I'm good with that. They're very nice people.

If asked, I say they're my friends because usually, the people asking me about it are weirded out by my sort of interaction with acquaintances and friends as those two are almost the same to me, really.

I don't go out of my way (e.g. talk and acknowledge) for people whom I don't like much (for whatever selfless or selfish reason) as most others do, calling them acquaintances.

I'm not in contact with anyone else however and I'm rather pleased with how things are. Too many people ganging up on me for having autism, whole classes or close to 70 people of a year, mostly strangers whom I never talked to, assembling somewhere because they agree with some vocal schoolmates of how "how Sora is ret*d (figure that's the German equivalent of using "behindert" = disabled as an insult) and that ret*ds not welcome in the new school".

Having so few friends from school is indeed uncommon among peers and the older generation where I live. I earn a lot of strange "looks" for it, as if being in contact with so few former schoolmates is, in some irrational way, my personal fault. Which makes no sense whatsoever, it's not as if I'm not a highly desirable and amazing person, so their loss hehe


_________________
Autism + ADHD
______
The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it. Terry Pratchett


1000Knives
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Jul 2011
Age: 33
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,036
Location: CT, USA

29 Apr 2012, 2:06 pm

I'm friends still with someone I knew from 7th grade. Not friends anymore with anyone from elementary school, though I've seen some people I knew from elementary recently very quickly. I have 3 good friends I still know from high school. I have one friend who I guess now would be an ex-friend that I knew since 9th grade, he's busy being married and stuff, and I think there's fallout between me and him because I switched churches and he's mad at that.



howzat
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 23 Aug 2007
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,802
Location: Hornsey North London

29 Apr 2012, 3:01 pm

No not really as i felt it was time for me to move on and meet new people possibility have new friends no point sticking to the past really.



thuyett
Butterfly
Butterfly

User avatar

Joined: 21 Apr 2012
Age: 42
Gender: Male
Posts: 11

29 Apr 2012, 3:13 pm

I'm still friends with my two main friends from middle and high school, and they're probably the only people I can be myself around. Also, when I get together when them I don't have to strain myself to keep the conversation going, which is usually the case with other people. I don't do all that much to maintain these friendships, however. In some respects I'm not the most supportive friend, to be honest. For example, one got married and I didn't go to the wedding. Also, I never remember birthdays (except my mom's). However, I do consistenly keep in touch with them both, and I suppose that's what really keeps a friendship going. They say that it's the small talk that keeps marriages going, and I suppose the same applies to friendships.



keira
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Feb 2011
Age: 40
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,420
Location: misplaced

29 Apr 2012, 3:24 pm

No. I have some of them on my FB friend list, but I don't really keep in touch with anyone.



CockneyRebel
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 17 Jul 2004
Age: 50
Gender: Male
Posts: 117,189
Location: In my little Olympic World of peace and love

29 Apr 2012, 5:25 pm

Most of my peers made fun of me and excluded me for being different.


_________________
The Family Enigma


Colinn
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 7 Apr 2012
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,192

29 Apr 2012, 5:38 pm

I still keep in touch with about half a dozen people from school. I do have some others on Facebook that I don't really speak to. Even the one's I do speak to are more acquaintances if anything due to having different interests. Besides, its an old part of my life and I am content with things at the moment. Look to the future, not the past. :)



jetbuilder
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 23 Feb 2012
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,172

29 Apr 2012, 10:29 pm

I only had two friends through highschool and they're still my two best friends nearly ten years later.


_________________
Standing on the fringes of life... offers a unique perspective. But there comes a time to see what it looks like from the dance floor.
---- Stephen Chbosky
ASD Diagnosis on 7-17-14
My Tumblr: http://jetbuilder.tumblr.com/


Tim_Tex
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 2 Jul 2004
Age: 45
Gender: Male
Posts: 46,100
Location: Houston, Texas

29 Apr 2012, 10:35 pm

They constitute most of my Facebook friends.


_________________
Who’s better at math than a robot? They’re made of math!


Joker
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 19 Mar 2011
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,593
Location: North Carolina The Tar Heel State :)

29 Apr 2012, 10:39 pm

Yes most of the people I knew in school are good friends of mine.



CaptainTrips222
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 30 Mar 2009
Age: 43
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,100

30 Apr 2012, 12:25 am

One, but we only see each other once a year or so. The rest... hmm.... we grew apart.