Not even two minutes after my boyfriend came home, he already had to misinterpret something I said to make it sound like I was attacking him. All I said was that the dish I made would've been better with white rice than with brown rice, and that I wish he would've let me pick up white rice last time we went shopping (he stopped me that day by going, "but we already have brown rice at home, it's healthier!") He internalized my comment to mean I was blaming him for my dish not being better, and proceeded to argue that I should "just be straightforward and say it's (his) fault." What?! But I didn't mean it that way! What the hell?! He refused to believe me, and said that maybe I "should think before talking"... I do think before talking. Maybe you should learn not to think that every time I mention something negative, it's actually codespeak for, "this is all your fault!"
Seriously, what did I do wrong? Am I not allowed to say that X would be better if Y happened? Or am I just not allowed to say it if the Y is related to him? I didn't even say the dish was bad, but that it would be better... Where is he getting all this?! Why did he tell me to apologize?! Why are we now in separate rooms not talking to each other like a couple of bratty kids?!
And he thinks he's more logical/less emotional than I am. Bull***t. A Vulcan (how he thinks of himself) would never react this way to a simple comment about rice!
VMSmith wrote:
why do i always attract creepy guys!? why?! and i am so sick of the asumption that i am weak because i am small and female! creepy guy was all like "oh are those books heavy? are you able to carry them?" more than once. what a twat. i was carrying 3 freaking books! i think i can bloody manage three books! grrrr

they werent even big books! at least creep aversion protocol #1 worked this time.(repel people by being myself- monosylablic, boring, a little rude. it shuts conversation down like magic)
Being aloof and rude doesn't always work for me. Some idiot guys think I'm "playing hard to get" and bother me even more! Seriously, dude, I'M NOT INTERESTED. GO AWAY. You just can't win when you're a girl.