Are you sensitive to criticism and insults?

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Insults, very much so. Criticism...if it's constructive and presented respectfully, I appreciate it actually. But if it's presented in a less than respectful manner than yes, I do really take it to heart.

Most definitely. I can't stand verbal bullying!

Extremely sensitive

My biggest flaw is undoubtedly my emotional oversensitivity. If there was something I could do to become more like Spock, I would do it in a heartbeat.

When it comes to criticism, I get weepy even if it's constructive, which I realize is a poor and possibly detrimental attitude for an aspiring artist to have. This attitude has probably contributed to my skills not being as advanced as I would have liked them to be at this point in my life. As for insults, they cut me so deeply that I can still clearly remember all the names and insults people hurled at me when I was half my age or younger.

yes and it hard for me to get over it.

From elementary school to high school, I was extremely sensitive to insults and playful jokes. In response to those insults and jokes, I would yell, scream, complain about these things, and give middle fingers. This was characteristic of my painful childhood.

Oh yeah! Even though I know some criticism is good because it can promote positive change, I often find myself having a tougher time recovering from a criticism blow then most people. It's something I'm trying to work on though.

I used to be, but if I do receive criticism it's usually in a constructive way. If it's not then I'll call them out for not being rational.

I'm very sensitive to criticism and insults and I obsess about it for a long time afterwards.

Yes, the simplest criticism can make me cry, and I really take it to heart, for days, weeks, even months afterward.

It depends on the situation, though. If someone is blatantly trying to pick a fight with me, I can pick a fight back and feel damn good about it, because my adrenaline is up. But if the insult is subtle, back-handed, accidental, or the person pretends they didn't mean it/acts like it was a joke, I feel like absolute crap and often end up crying, in part because I feel powerless because I can't confront them. On the other hand, people can say some pretty harsh things to me, but if the feedback is useful, I actually get less offended than most people. For instance, if someone said to me, "Your shirt is hideous, you should change it", I might or not agree or change it, but I would think, At least I have a sense of what someone thinks of this shirt. Also, if I ask someone a question, I always appreciate an honest answer.

I'm quite sensitive to criticisms if I suspect that they might be true.

On the other hand, if someone tries to call me out for having some property that I'm pretty sure I don't have, then I can just laugh it off.

Consider:

I'm not so much sensitive to insults or put-downs as I may have been when I was younger. Part of how I grew out of being held back by the fallout from taking insults and put-downs too much to heart, is that I have learned to identify subtle clues from people who do the insulting, and have limited or cut off contact with those people. I welcome constructive criticism, but I will not tolerate abusive criticism or belittling comments. I'm happy and secure with myself at this point, and if someone decides that they can't stand my being so, they can go jump in the lake. But if someone genuinely cares, and sees me making what they perceive as a bad choice, and if they tell me so in a respectful way, I appreciate and welcome it.

The key is to learn to tell the difference between constructive criticism and bullying or abusive criticism. Too hard to explain, but basically if someone tells you constantly what you're doing is wrong or stupid, that's abusive. If they tell you something in a way that sounds like they're sharing a technique or their experience with you, it might be constructive and caring. If you take someone's suggestion and go out and do it and accomplish something, and then they turn around and tell you "Well, you just got lucky", and they don't give you any credit for the effort, they're stealing your self esteem, and that's abusive. If they act happy that you accomplished whatever it might be, and they point out all the hard things you must have done to get there, it's probably genuine.

Charles

yes i am

I'm a little slow in getting my shields up... the first few insults sting pretty hard but I'm finally starting to learn to A) not let them destroy me, and, B) defend against them.

I'm also learning (50-75% complete) to accept genuine constructive criticism and learn the difference between that and a veiled insult. There was a time when even the slightest criticism would force complete shutdown. SO glad I've recognized that and work on overcoming it!

...now to teach my cloned son to do the same at a much earlier stage in life so he doesn't have as many hardships as I!