I thought of something that happened many years ago, and I would be interested to hear others stories similar in theme. Has your inability to judge a person or situation ever caused a problem?
I was about 21 or so when this happened. After a strange series of events which included a cute dreaded hippy chick, us selling candles from our skateboards on the sidewalk, and her taking the money and leaving town... I ended up working for a guy named Gustavo from Argentina. I saw him as a suave ladies man with a unique accented voice, nearing or just past his 40's but youthful. I explained what happened and that I didn't take any more than my commission of the money, and that the girl ran off with the rest. I did this out of fear more than anything, I knew nothing of this guy and did not want to meet him on the street a month later and get assaulted.
He believed me and could tell I was honest. He wanted me to work for him (I never had a job in my life), so I started cleaning floors and helping around the warehouse. He barely paid me enough to cover my fuel costs but it was something to do and I was possibly hoping to get into the business. So this lasted a few months, and we would hang out briefly after working playing guitar or talking about business.
I could see it was not going anywhere for me financially and he was putting little effort into his business so I drifted from him some. Months later he calls me up because hes moving to a new warehouse and needed help. I drove the U-Haul back and forth all day and we ended the night at his new place. I was helping him fix his computer when he started rubbing my back. I tensed up and shot a inquisitive look at him, and he made me semi-comfortable saying my back probably hurts from all that work and that he was trained as a massage therapist. I don't like being touched nor do I like the idea of massages, but I went with it. It was just a long (probably short in reality) uncomfortable upper back/shoulder massage.
He turned on some music, I finished up the computer and was ready to leave. Then he asked me in a very delicate voice if I would like to stay the night.
--- This blew my mind. I did not pick up any signs until I was able to think with perspective of this incident. He was a kind person and when I rejected he understood the situation and said ok have a nice night. I talked to him a couple times after this but declined to work. I wish I would have stayed in contact with him though, I had nothing against him it was just too weird of a situation for me at the time. Some times I come off as effeminate, but I am 100% hetero minded by nature.
Most the time I can read people with hyper sensitive accuracy, but when I'm at a personal level I seem to drop my defenses and try to function on natural instincts that are just not there. I don't see the whole picture of people unless I stop and think outside the situation.
-----edited something that may offend
27 May 2013, 7:49 pm
