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27 Mar 2025, 11:58 am

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I think that when people say "just be yourself" they mean just relax and don't worry about making mistakes

I think about this quite a lot and that's the best answer I can come up with


I think it means don’t feel the need to mimic anyone, especially to fit in with any group. Be authentically you, no one else. Then you can relax because you aren’t pretending to be something or someone you aren’t.



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27 Mar 2025, 12:13 pm

Yeah I get what you're saying and it is nice when people just accept you for you rather than if they don't accept you for not being you


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27 Mar 2025, 1:20 pm

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If you ever see him again or meet someone like him maybe encourage him to express himself using color or in a language that connects with him. I can articulate very well but I express my own thoughts and emotions best with color. I use digital color wheels for this and, sometimes, colored pencils. There is nothing quite like that.

I often ‘hear’ the people who can’t speak or express themselves with audible words. Like us, it’s very frustrating for them to be misunderstood. Many are sharp as a tack intellectually but they present in a way that NTs don’t understand.

To the NT community: do not ever diminish or infantilize someone because they are unable to speak.


Will do! Thank you for the encouragement. Also, I like that NT community PSA.



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27 Mar 2025, 3:46 pm

Have I passed through the twilight zone or have people started talking gibberish all of a sudden


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27 Mar 2025, 4:22 pm

Disclaimer: I'm merely thinking this and am not professing any authoritative knowledge on this topic. I started this by thinking that the word complex in complex-PTSD seems out of place, but after writing it out, it actually seems pretty fitting.

I think the term complex in complex-PTSD is included because there is not one specific traumatic experience that causes the issues, but a long series of psychological stressors that amount to an entire complex of issues resembling PTSD-like reactions. What makes it more complex is that the stressors are associated with regular social interactions, allowing normal social interactions to reinforce the associated unhealthy responses that altogether amount up to a complex.

What makes the trauma-like experiences more complex is their relatively temporal distance from their consequences and that they are a series of smaller steps with the majority of them generally being understood as not traumatizing. With traumatic events in PTSD, the events and consequences happen very close in time and clearly defined. With complex trauma, there rarely is one event and the consequences of the series of events can continue to be reveals years later. With PTSD, the stressor and other relevant cues are associated with the outcome. This allows individuals to easily develop a strategy for recovery that helps extinguish the association between actually safe triggers and the outcome. In regards to making sense of the traumatizing event, it is relatively easy since people can focus on the aspects of only one or few similar events.

With complex, there is an incomprehensible series of minor events that loosely lead to the consequences, some of which have not even been recognized yet. This makes it impossible to focus on analyzing a traumatic since there are too many. Even worse, since the temporal distance between the event and the recognition of the consequences are so large, the person experiences part of the traumatic damage too separate from the causal events to make a direct association. Instead, the person learns that there needs to be extensive analysis of a series of events in order to make sense of the traumas. This creates a habit of constantly analyzing to recognize more stressors and consequences, adding a domain to complex-PTSD that PTSD doesn't have. This extra domain can cause reinforcement of the complex-PTSD as the person inadvertently but actively re-traumatizes themself by recognizing new traumas (events and consequences) in hopes to achieve safety as with all traumas. In other words, whereas PTSD reinforces itself by avoiding triggers which prevents extinction of association between them and expected consequences and thus physical and emotional reactions, complex-PTSD further grows itself by continually re-traumatizing the person long after the initial events because the traumatization happens at the realization. It's not just avoidance preventing the recovery. It's further traumatization actually making the problem worse by adding more trauma into the formula. It also creates a self-growing cycle in which analysis causes trauma which calls for more analysis and on and on.

Ok. I'm done. I may continue this process later. Thanks for reading! If you would like to join, jump in! We can even make it its own post.



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27 Mar 2025, 4:30 pm

Yeah that's what I was thinking


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27 Mar 2025, 5:04 pm

Participant626 wrote:
In other words, whereas PTSD reinforces itself by avoiding triggers which prevents extinction of association between them and expected consequences and thus physical and emotional reactions, complex-PTSD further grows itself by continually re-traumatizing the person long after the initial events because the traumatization happens at the realization. It's not just avoidance preventing the recovery. It's further traumatization actually making the problem worse by adding more trauma into the formula. It also creates a self-growing cycle in which analysis causes trauma which calls for more analysis and on and on.

Ok. I'm done. I may continue this process later. Thanks for reading! If you would like to join, jump in! We can even make it its own post.


Yes, this is why I choose to focus on the present moment and the future. If I focus on the past of anything, it just relives it all over again. Reliving history is ongoing trauma that does more harm than good. Analysis creates worry. But I still analyze patterns. I can’t stop that.

Now my tech friends are reminding me to worry about Q-Day. And then I think, no more bills to pay! Yay! :)



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27 Mar 2025, 6:34 pm

I don't care.
It's worth it. For me at least.


And if I ever get a last one?
It better be way more worth it.

Maybe it'll be the very time when I'll finally 'graduate' from 'needing' this stupid human need for expression. :lol:


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27 Mar 2025, 6:45 pm

Stargazer99 wrote:

Yes, this is why I choose to focus on the present moment and the future. If I focus on the past of anything, it just relives it all over again. Reliving history is ongoing trauma that does more harm than good. Analysis creates worry. But I still analyze patterns. I can’t stop that.

Now my tech friends are reminding me to worry about Q-Day. And then I think, no more bills to pay! Yay! :)


got it!



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27 Mar 2025, 7:12 pm

Supposedly a chore.

Just for today.
And better hope my boss is joking; suggesting to go on an outting where my mom's going at the near same moment...


And the experiment.

Supplement I'm taking would be my own type of stimulant I can only hope; since caffeine, of whatever amount or form I consume it from, is not very reliable to me as a stimulant.


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27 Mar 2025, 8:08 pm

I wonder if Auti$m $peaks America will ever go under.


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28 Mar 2025, 2:10 am

sCUNThorpe


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28 Mar 2025, 2:10 am

That used to get censored on a different site


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28 Mar 2025, 2:27 am

I can imagine most things but a Cadbury's Cream Egg trifle flavour I can not


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28 Mar 2025, 5:53 am

I kinda regret selling Diora MDS 442 tape deck I had and considering to buy one again. Maybe I rely exclusively on computer audio primarily due to space and convenience...

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...But that unusual deck they have and is just damn amazing. Not only unconventional, it's also fully motorized and can play open:

https://szwajn.net/ar/forums/mds442-2023-04-28.mp4

^ It's the one I had. Video took before adjusting speeds.


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28 Mar 2025, 5:57 am

Yeah I like the old machines too


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