Do you eat what you want?

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Lately at dinner time instead of making what mom has cooked I make something I like since I don't want pizza or *insert item she cooked* I like eating what I want and at times cook what I want since I don't want what mom has cooked. So has anyone else done this and how did your parents take it? My family HATE I don't eat what's cooked (they also hate I eat in my room which I've discussed in another topic before)

I eat whatever I want, whenever I want.

When my children were younger, I cooked for them. When they became teenagers we would only eat in the dinning room together once or twice a week. Other times we ate in the great room where the computer and big tv was or at a restaurant or in our rooms if we all wanted to watch something different. I always stocked the refrigerator, freezer and pantry with lots of easy and quick stuff for them to make themselves. I never had a problem with them eating in their rooms or the living room as long as they brought their dishes downstairs to the kitchen and washed them. They seem to enjoy when we ate together and when we didn't. It was no big deal if they wanted to eat something different. There were other kids in and out of the house so I don't remember a lot of food being wasted. I have no doubt that me and my son both have AS. The two of us got along very well and were always close and understood each other. Sometimes my NT daughter would try to cook different things to eat and get mad at me and her brother if we didn't always like the food. That only happened a couple of times. Why should anyone eat something they don't want or like. Maybe you could compromise with your mother or if you're an adult just tell her nicely not to make dinner for you, you'll make your own. I hope this helps.

BTW yes I do eat what I want when I want and where I want.

I do the cooking in the house ,which gives me ULTIMATE POWER.

From a mom's POV: Everyone else eats what is served/cooked for them, so it is understandable that your family would be put off by the fact that you make something separate and eat in your room. It is sort of rude in their world because it is like the Lady taking meals in her room- special meals- and the plebeians all can eat the common folk food. No offense to you, really, because I understand your side too.

From an Aspie POV: I like to eat alone and I like to eat pretty much the same stuff all the time. I have eating rituals and I get agitated when others are around me while I eat or look at me or my food while I eat. SO I know where you are coming from and I don't judge you.

Since I cook for everyone I try to make a variety of food for their sakes. I do rotate the same types of meals though. I cook chicken or turkey dishes and serve at least one veggie every night. They don't mind a little repetition because they like my cooking. I also try to eat with my daughter when she asks me to. It makes her happy and that is important too.

So I am just saying maybe try to compromise

It used to really annoy them. I just can't eat like them. I wanna live past 30.

I am a picky eater, so I always choose what I want to eat.

nah...can't afford that much, and have to watch what I eat now...

Not really, I just eat anything that has been given to me and I've started to appreciate my mums cooking to help me live my whole day.
Normally when it gets to lunch, I choose what I want to eat but I always have to literally think about how i'm going to make it.

I eat what's put in front of me, which is generally "whatever my parents are eating, only without the meat."

If I have to cook for myself I go for a very limited repetition between soup - pasta - vegetable curry - pizza.

My parents don't mind at all if I don't feel like eating what they've cooked. They understand that I might have filled up on other foods throughout the day, or that I simply don't like what they've cooked. If the latter is the case, then they cook me something I like on the side - I don't even ask them to do that; they just like to spoil me.

Now, my older sister is another story entirely. She is a terrific cook, but has very low self-esteem, so if someone doesn't feel like eating what she's cooked, she takes it as a personal attack and gets angry.

Normally I eat what I want for breakfats and lunch as long as I can afford it. My mother makes dinner, but she's fine with me eating something else as long as I do my dishes afterwards.

Yes. Since I'm a vegetarian I have different meals anyway.

I eat what I want, when i want, and where i want