what's your relationship with your mom like?

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Is she your best friend or hero, or are you pretty distant from her? or somewhere in between?

I love her I wish I could spend more time with her. She has chronic pain so I hardly ever get to talk to her or see her anymore. We used to be so close, she used to be the only person I really felt attached to.

Pretty close, I suppose. We're very similar in many ways, or so I've been told.

All over the place.

We are very close now, but it wasn't always like that. We're quite different, so we needed to learn to respect each others differences, opinions, choices and independence and accept each other for who we are. Now she's like my best friend, who's always there to help, to support and to listen. She would offer her opinion or advice, but wouldn't try to influence or control my decisions or choices. I love and respect her very much.

I am extremely attached to my mom. She shows saintlike patience and kindness towards me, and I appreciate that more than words can express. She is my hero, my best friend, and my everything. It makes me sad to think that I'll never be as good of a person as she is. I love my mom so much that when she dies, I'll never be the same. It will most likely shatter my already fragile mental health, and I suspect that I'll need hospitalization.

There is no relationship.

We've never had a mother-daughter relationship, we're similar in some respects but in others we're vastly different, she shows no interest in my life and she was abusive to the point of nearly killing me on several occasions...I've not seen her in about two years and have no real interest in doing so. She sends me an occasional text, something mundane with an update on family before abruptly ending the conversation (normally as she's going out). She always had a closer relationship to other people's kids than to me and as much as I tried to bond she showed little interest and often shot me down - as a child I was completely dependant on her but she became little more than an abusive house-mate by the time I was in my teens, now she's just someone I know, although I still love her to some degree as she's my mother.

I kind of wish I knew what it was like having a relationship with my mother like you guys do, must be nice *shrugs*

Pretty distant, we live together but yeah still pretty distant.

My relationship with my mother is pretty distant. When I was very little she was everything to me. When I understood she was manipulating me and transforming me into a hateful being just to please her wicked purposes so I stopped loving her. And understood she didnt love me, either. She was just using me. Our relationship was never the same. I do not love her, and I am sure she is uncapable or loving anybody, she just likes to own people and use people for her own purposes. I pitty her. But I stay away as far as possible. We do not even communicate over the phone anymore. I just stopped calling her, and she will NOT call me, so...

very distant. now in the literal sense as well as the metaphorical. we never were close but i think she is only just realising that. i have never told her anything, never been honest with her.

We have a really good bond, and lots of fun, she's an awesome mom for me :) And we have a lot of things in common and we talk a lot, and she's basically my friend, my mom, and my dad since i lack a father xD

It's not excellent. I love her very much, but she's too much for me to handle. She think she knows me well, but she also thinks that my childhood has had no lasting negative effects. She thinks a lot of things about me that aren't true.

I experience a lot of anger towards her, and the past, and I need to deal with a lot of stuff before I can even think of having much of a relationship with her.

Mine is very good and pretty much always has been. This doesn't mean it's perfect, just that it works well enough. We are similar in a lot of ways. Both of us are very strong willed and both of us tend to take charge when needed. Now when I was growing up, this led to quite a few clashes, and still does to this day. However, it's not an adversarial relationship by any means. She confides in me a lot and uses me as a sounding board for a variety of issues. I think part of this is because my dad tends to be fairly distant and non verbal (we both have come to suspect he is an aspie since I started researching it) and she needs someone who will respond back constructively. A lot of people I have known like this about me and how I can logically break down a problem to it's essence and come up with a reasonable solution. I also still have my mom cut my hair in the same way she has since I was about ten. It's too much trouble to change it and my mom does it for free, so it's cheaper that way.

As for the negatives, she only recently stopped coming into my house and cleaning it without my consent. When I was a teenager, I would come home and surprise! She had rearranged all of the furniture in my room! She also used to enter my room without knocking and get mad at me when I locked the door. Then again, my parents also crawled in the window of my house without me here a few times too (and when I say my house, I mean my name is on the mortgage, title, etc. and they have no legal claim on it.) So yeah, they can be a bit more invasive than I would like. Another irritant is that she insists on picking out my clothes whenever I am going somewhere with the family. Sorry, but I am 38 now and can dress myself as I please. This has led to me refusing to go with them just so that I didn't have to change my clothes to fit in to a situation I didn't care about with people I didn't know. Another time they told me not to come over to their house driving the car I wanted to drive because of what the neighbors would think so, I just didn't go over there. Oh, the other thing my mom does that irritates me is that she likes to touch me (not in a sexual way!) when I am not expecting it. Hugs from the blue are annoying and startling so I don't like them. I think that since we both came to the conclusion that I might have Asperger's she has stopped doing it though.

As far as I am concerned, I have no family. I have been abused my whole life. I even think I'm adopted. Though I would need more proof to officially confirm. Once I leave home, I will never contact any of them ever again

Strained.. difficult.. fragile

Sometimes we're ok, joking around and having fun, and sometimes it's apocalypse
She doesn't believe that ASD really exists and doesn't care whether or not I have it
and she doesn't really know anything about me, since I just get stupid comments when I tell her about my problems

I love my Mum, but, I , like am totally obsessed with, like, every second of my life...
She thinks that being clean and hygiene is important,
whereas, I am so absorbed in details and catorigising stuff, that i forget how important cleanliness is to her
Luckily, she forgives for me for being an absolute pig
and regularly cleans my room
and I try to kiss her every night and tell her I love her
and she regularly cleans my room
forgives for me for being an absolute pig
and I tread water when she rages at me
cause i know she will never change
and she doesn't know I will never change