Dear Mom,
I'm sorry you felt like you were doing the lion's share of the work yesterday. I can understand why you felt that way, since you did put a lot of time and energy into making food for the BBQ. However, to blame me and say that I should have been helping you more is wrong, since I asked you (multiple times, by the way) if you wanted help, and you kept telling me "Not right now. I'll let you know if I want help, though." So do you think that I was supposed to say "I'm not taking no for an answer. I'm helping you, no matter how adamant you are that you don't need it"? Of course I wasn't going to say that. If you wanted help, you should have told me so, instead of lying like you did. Your need to lie to me is not my fault, it's 100% yours. So don't you dare try to pin the blame on me.
Also, in terms of the way I was talking to Dad's friend about the book I read, again, I had no idea that you didn't want me to talk about mental illness. You should have made that clear before Dad's friends arrived, rather than getting angry with me about it now. Plus, it's not my fault that I like to read books about mental illness, nor is it my fault that Dad's friend wanted to talk to me about the book I was reading. He seemed genuinely interested in it, and even took a picture of it with his phone, so he could look for a copy of his own. I feel like you'd rather I hadn't made that connection with him, as though the fact that I rarely make connections with people these days doesn't even matter to you. It seems like your own sensitivities matter more to you than my happiness does, and that's just plain BS. You don't seem to care at all about how unhappy I am these days, and when I try to talk to you about it, you tend to get "overwhelmed" really quickly and want me to stop telling you about it. So why should I care about your feelings, then, when you can't even get over your sensitivities enough to care about mine?
I cannot explain how angry I am at you right now. I really wish I could move out right this second and never talk to you again. This sort of behavior on your part has been going on for far too long and I'm sick and f*****g tired of it.
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"Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal." - Albert Camus