hurtloam wrote:
I'm a white, middle aged, middle class woman.
I don't think that Karen is a slur.
No one is going to call me Karen if I make a complaint... Because I'll only complain if it's legitimate and I'll do so politely without shouting, screaming insults or demanding things I'm not entitled to.
Thank you...Thank you...Exactly...[Thumbs-up]
I am Mexican-American...At present-time, due to the pandemic, i find myself below the national level of poverty...I have a petite figure...I most certainly do not fit the "Karen" stereotype...I fit more onto the insignificant "Maria" stereotype that others may underestimate...
I do have a very strong sense of social justice...I have a Bachelor's degree in Legal Studies and almost one decade of experience in the legal profession...Seven of which i specialized in civil litigation (law-suits defending the victims)...With such background, i do know the difference between a valid complaint and a frivolous complaint...Also, with maturity, one learns to choose one's battles carefully...
Two weeks ago, i could have been mistaken by a "Karen"...A local tow-truck company was charging my husband a little less than 600 dollars (for towing his vehicle from the scene of an accident to their storage facility where his vehicle had not been for more than three hours)...Applicable law states that they cannot charge more than the local police, who charges a little less than 300 dollars for the same service...So, yes, i complained...I spoke to the owner of the company, and called him "dishonest", "ill-intended", and "a thief"...He hanged-up on me; but not before realizing that i know that my husband has protections under the law...
Sadly, California takes the lead nationwide when it comes to "predatory" tactics by towing companies...They never loose...If you do not have the monies to pay their astronomical fees, the law allows them to sale your vehicle within 30 days...And if said proceeds do not cover the total cost of storage of the vehicle (locally is 60 dollars per day of storage), they can and will 'slap you' with a law-suit for the balance...Most people do not know that we have protections under the law, so most of the time, the towing companies will get-away with their predatory tactics...
Suffice to say my beloved "Aspie" husband was upset at me, because i "fought" the towing company...In his kind and low tone of voice but characteristic firmness, he said, "If i have accepted the loss of my car, why do you get like that?!"...The accident was not his fault...And his vehicle is a total loss...I responded to him..."I am not upset at you; i am mad at the towing company...TO ME, IT IS A MATTER OF PRINCIPLE"...
The next day, i drove him to the towing-truck company to recover his vehicle...At the end he was only charged appx. 350 dollars, a significant amount less than the original charge...Most likely, they reduced the amount, because i complained and because they know they are violating the law...
Voicing a legitimate complain does NOT turns us into a "Karen"...An unfounded complain or frivolous complain with the ill-intent to harm someone's employment would...I hope i have succeeded in making this clear distinction...
In brief, a "Karen" by name will NOT be offended nor hurt by the "Karen" label if she does NOT acts like one...Greetings to you from California...

Post-Script: In my defense, i should say that i am very generous with praise...Example, if i see a janitor cleaning at a school, i make sure to thank him personally...If i like the professional customer service provided to me, i go out of my way to report this to his or her superiors, so that he or she receives the deserving merit...