I'm a male virgin. Not the technical kind.... yeeeaaaah.... awkward
I've only ever said it on this forum.... I'm not exactly sure why it embarasses me. It doesn't make me less of a man. I don't try to be someone I'm not. I don't think I seek the approval of others, but I must to a certain extent because of this. I try to live by my own code. I don't have anything to prove. It's weird. I think I just want to be talked to like an equal, even though I know I'm just as good as everybody else, and better than some.
The fact that I'm a virgin has bothers me. I don't like that about myself. The Neo-Freudians say culture makes us who we are. I may not like it because everyone around me and everyone in the culture includes it in their definition of manhood. It makes sense some sense now. From a purely evolutionary standpoint sex is all that matters. Every being is wired with one goal in mind: pass on your genes. Sexual selection came about purely by accident but it was so superior to cloning that the children of the first two plant-cell-creatures to mate beat out the competition. Humans are driven to beat out the competition. Societies and cultures enforce the factors that lead to producing and raising healthy offspring. Cultures that do not (Alca/Waodoni) simply do not last.
The real point is that WE ARE NOT SLAVES TO OUR GENES. The culture does not matter because we decide our own "fates." We make our own happiness. Like gay people. They've always existed, but as far as I know most of the ones before this century wound up having kids despite their orientation. That's the only reason there are still gay people. As gays become more accepted they are bound to die off because they lack the evolutionary drive to breed. But they still enjoy their lives. They realize, like I have, that they owe the human race nothing! Even if I somehow owed children to some horrible god, they would be like me or possibly much worse. It would be a disservice to them to bring them into existance, and I shouldn't lie to myself; I wouldn't enjoy being a father at all and (partially because of that) I would not make a good one.
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Wow. I been writing alot I started this post. I decided not to include the rest because it mostly deals with my personal philosophy and goes on alot. At least half of it has nothing to do with me being a virgin. I'm still writing things down. I'd like to thank the OP for posting the thread and Alex for starting the site in the first place. I really figured out alot.