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24 Sep 2015, 9:52 am

This is a rant, but the way you rejected me, you could have minimized the pain I felt.

You aren't one of those cruel, shallow people. You are a compassionate person and a good friend and actually showed some care about how the rejection would have made me feel, but you too could have done more.

When you first rejected me, you shouldn't have tried to manipulate me into feeling okay about it, saying I should be 'relieved' that I now have a NEW FEMALE FRIEND that can help me get a girlfriend. Bullsh•t. You broke my heart and it was perfectly normal and NATURAL for me to still be upset at the time, but you just wanted to quickly move on as fast as possible to try and make me not even realize that it hurt. You reject me by saying "I haven't been ignorant of your advances, and I just want to say, it's NOT gonna happen. :) Oh, but HEY, if you EVER need a FRIEND who can help you get a girlfriend, you've got ME now. So yay, that's great, isn't it?! :)"

what is any reasonable minded person supposed to think of that?

And, you should have rejected me properly the first time. You said you were Bisexual, but was only looking for a girlfriend at the time. You reject me, yet you told me I still had a 'pretty good chance' and I am still in your 'possible boyfriend zone'. And make me hold onto false hopes that 6 months into the future, you'd like guys again and give me a chance.

A few weeks later, you decide you only see me as a friend and that I am in your 'friendzone'. You delay in telling me this and continue to allow me to cling onto my false hopes.

And then you tell me you only see me as a friend, and that even though you do like guys again, you aren't interested in a relationship with anyone ad feel you would personally be too busy in your life for one.

Not even 2 weeks later, you change your mind yet again. You contradict both of those statements. You develop an attraction to ANOTHER male that you also only saw as a friend just like me, and you DO end up dating him.

So, you either LIED to me, or weren't confident/sure about yourself when you said it to me.

If you REALLY meant what you said, that you weren't looking for a relationship with ANYONE at the time, then you would have dedictated yurself to NOT ending up dating this new guy. You would have tried your very best to stop yourself from developing feelings for him. And, even though he only saw you as a friend, he told you he was willing to give you a chance.

But, if you REALLY meant what you had told me, you would have said no. You would have said "I am sorry, but I can't accept your offer. I promised myself I wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone right now, and I am going to stick by those words, BECAUSE I'M NOT A CONFUSED PERSON WHO SAYS ONE THING AND THEN CHANGES THEIR GODDAMN MIND ONE OR TWO FRICKEN WEEKS LATER."

My heart was broken only for her to turn around and end up with a new guy the exact same way I did. I liked her, she only saw me as a friend, she wasn't looking for a relationship at the time, she didn't give me a chance. She liked her friend, he only saw her as a friend, he wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone at the time either, he gave her a achance. And now they are happy together.

And, to add insult to injury, you and him show off about yoru relationsgip. You treat it as a status symbol. I hang out with the same group of friends as you both, and they treat it like some celebrity relationship. And, whether you admit it or not, you DO support it and you reinforce it. You act like you hate them pestering you over your relationship for gossip, but truth is you enjoy the attention. You openly flirt and show off about the relationship so fricken much. It is not cute, but sickening.
Not just that, but you two are basically inseparable now. I feel like I don't even have a friend anymore, because my female friend is always with her boyfriend now. You both stand ridiculously close together at nearly all times, it's like you're both barely even individuals anymore. It makes me sad, the disgusting thought that every time I think of you, my female friend, you will only ever be with him, I can't even think of you, my female friend, anymore without him also popping into my mind. I understand you;re both in a relationship, and everyone ahs different kinds of relationships, but you both seem insecure if you realy have to cling that tightly together.

I moved on and got a new girlfriend but we didn't last. At least Me and my ex girlfriend were nowhere near as clingy as you two. We were very private about the relationship and could spend time and distance apart.

That's all I have to say. You stepped on me, and now I have to suffer.

Am I jealous, and still upset over the fact that you rejected me? Yes. But I'd honestly like to get back together with my ex more than anything else.

It's just IN GENERAL.

I have only been stepped on this year by the opposite sex in general, and to be honest, you, my female friend, did it the worst. You were the one that made me feel the worst.

This is why I can't be with you, and don't actually want to be with you. I am still sad that you rejected me, but happy I avoided ending up with a person like you. A person who can't make up their mind about what they want, always changing it regardless of how much it hurts the people you supposedly care about.

You're a good friend but you would have never made a good girlfriend to me.

I was saddended that my ex girlfriend broke up with me, and still want to get back together with her, but you hurt me the most, female friend. You did.



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24 Sep 2015, 6:50 pm

I saw one of your 300s at a Jeep dealer on the way to the gun shop. Sitting all by its lonesome surrounded by Jeeps; very gnarly looking. It was black.



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24 Sep 2015, 11:11 pm

https://youtu.be/sl0J0K-Tjlc

@dianthus, I hope whoever you're trying to communicate to is getting your messages



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25 Sep 2015, 7:47 am

Awesomesauce. But I'm not getting black, I'm getting "maximum steel" (it's like a really dark silvery blue that looks black in the shade). It's never appeared on the 300's before, it's a Jeep and Dodge Ram colour that they've adopted. I decided against white and they took the dark red away, and I really liked this colour when I first saw it. Good alternative to black without getting that boring dark silver.

January can't come soon enough.



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25 Sep 2015, 2:49 pm

I've been wanting to say this for awhile, and I don't know how else to say it but to just put it out here. Have you ever thought that your ex-wife might have been a narcissist? You had some really intense flashbacks to what happened with her. I think your emotions were more PTSD than bipolar. You probably experienced narcissistic abuse at some point in your life long before you met her.



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25 Sep 2015, 4:34 pm

You get inside my head.
Must be clangy and echoey in there.


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26 Sep 2015, 1:03 am

It's hard to tell if you're upset with me or just in a bad mood. I'm afraid of asking, you'll say it's nothing anyway. I remember being jealous that you got a second chance with your ex. I will f*****g ruin him if he's smacking you around again, just know I love you.


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26 Sep 2015, 2:19 am

Outrider wrote:
This is a rant, but the way you rejected me, you could have minimized the pain I felt.

You aren't one of those cruel, shallow people. You are a compassionate person and a good friend and actually showed some care about how the rejection would have made me feel, but you too could have done more.

When you first rejected me, you shouldn't have tried to manipulate me into feeling okay about it, saying I should be 'relieved' that I now have a NEW FEMALE FRIEND that can help me get a girlfriend. Bullsh•t. You broke my heart and it was perfectly normal and NATURAL for me to still be upset at the time, but you just wanted to quickly move on as fast as possible to try and make me not even realize that it hurt. You reject me by saying "I haven't been ignorant of your advances, and I just want to say, it's NOT gonna happen. :) Oh, but HEY, if you EVER need a FRIEND who can help you get a girlfriend, you've got ME now. So yay, that's great, isn't it?! :)"

what is any reasonable minded person supposed to think of that?

And, you should have rejected me properly the first time. You said you were Bisexual, but was only looking for a girlfriend at the time. You reject me, yet you told me I still had a 'pretty good chance' and I am still in your 'possible boyfriend zone'. And make me hold onto false hopes that 6 months into the future, you'd like guys again and give me a chance.

A few weeks later, you decide you only see me as a friend and that I am in your 'friendzone'. You delay in telling me this and continue to allow me to cling onto my false hopes.

And then you tell me you only see me as a friend, and that even though you do like guys again, you aren't interested in a relationship with anyone ad feel you would personally be too busy in your life for one.

Not even 2 weeks later, you change your mind yet again. You contradict both of those statements. You develop an attraction to ANOTHER male that you also only saw as a friend just like me, and you DO end up dating him.

So, you either LIED to me, or weren't confident/sure about yourself when you said it to me.

If you REALLY meant what you said, that you weren't looking for a relationship with ANYONE at the time, then you would have dedictated yurself to NOT ending up dating this new guy. You would have tried your very best to stop yourself from developing feelings for him. And, even though he only saw you as a friend, he told you he was willing to give you a chance.

But, if you REALLY meant what you had told me, you would have said no. You would have said "I am sorry, but I can't accept your offer. I promised myself I wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone right now, and I am going to stick by those words, BECAUSE I'M NOT A CONFUSED PERSON WHO SAYS ONE THING AND THEN CHANGES THEIR GODDAMN MIND ONE OR TWO FRICKEN WEEKS LATER."

My heart was broken only for her to turn around and end up with a new guy the exact same way I did. I liked her, she only saw me as a friend, she wasn't looking for a relationship at the time, she didn't give me a chance. She liked her friend, he only saw her as a friend, he wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone at the time either, he gave her a achance. And now they are happy together.

And, to add insult to injury, you and him show off about yoru relationsgip. You treat it as a status symbol. I hang out with the same group of friends as you both, and they treat it like some celebrity relationship. And, whether you admit it or not, you DO support it and you reinforce it. You act like you hate them pestering you over your relationship for gossip, but truth is you enjoy the attention. You openly flirt and show off about the relationship so fricken much. It is not cute, but sickening.
Not just that, but you two are basically inseparable now. I feel like I don't even have a friend anymore, because my female friend is always with her boyfriend now. You both stand ridiculously close together at nearly all times, it's like you're both barely even individuals anymore. It makes me sad, the disgusting thought that every time I think of you, my female friend, you will only ever be with him, I can't even think of you, my female friend, anymore without him also popping into my mind. I understand you;re both in a relationship, and everyone ahs different kinds of relationships, but you both seem insecure if you realy have to cling that tightly together.

I moved on and got a new girlfriend but we didn't last. At least Me and my ex girlfriend were nowhere near as clingy as you two. We were very private about the relationship and could spend time and distance apart.

That's all I have to say. You stepped on me, and now I have to suffer.

Am I jealous, and still upset over the fact that you rejected me? Yes. But I'd honestly like to get back together with my ex more than anything else.

It's just IN GENERAL.

I have only been stepped on this year by the opposite sex in general, and to be honest, you, my female friend, did it the worst. You were the one that made me feel the worst.

This is why I can't be with you, and don't actually want to be with you. I am still sad that you rejected me, but happy I avoided ending up with a person like you. A person who can't make up their mind about what they want, always changing it regardless of how much it hurts the people you supposedly care about.

You're a good friend but you would have never made a good girlfriend to me.

I was saddended that my ex girlfriend broke up with me, and still want to get back together with her, but you hurt me the most, female friend. You did.


If, for some bizarre reason, my parents had let me go out regularly at your current age, and have a girlfriend, and they’d caught me with such a drama, they’d have taken it as a prime reason to withdraw those privileges again and for good.


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26 Sep 2015, 2:56 am

Feyokien wrote:
@dianthus, I hope whoever you're trying to communicate to is getting your messages


Seeing them, but not necessarily getting. Communicating this way is bound to generate misunderstandings.



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26 Sep 2015, 4:02 am

I don't even listen to a lot of these songs, because they are not my kind of music.



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26 Sep 2015, 4:28 am

It would be romantic to believe that we understand each other perfectly, but it's an illusion that demands perpetual ambiguity.



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26 Sep 2015, 4:33 am

Genuinely trying to understand someone else seems such an extremely rare practice I have real trouble believing it happens even in romantic relationships, though I admit I have no idea how these work.


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