BirdInFlight wrote:
No smudge, aimed at a thread more recently where some people just really seemed to be getting a dig in -- one person in particular that I thought we'd made our peace, but there that person was again.
There is just a general culture here of people making judgment calls on the entire state of being of others here based on one or two issues -- and it is after all a support site where one of its very functions is that we can air our challenges, compare notes, compare coping methods or just make a rant about the problem that's bugging us in our life.
But then other people take that ball and run with it and decide that it must be something we never let go of, and that we are being "poor little victims".
It's usually the very well-coping people on here who decide all this negative sh!t and do the "victim" accusations just because someone else is honest enough to describe that something is a challenge for them, which is after all what this place is supposed to be here for.
I'm sick of the "holier than thou" s**t. There are aspier than thous, holier than thous, coping better than thou, and I'm sick of it.
I realise what you're saying. Sometimes I think they do it as a way of escaping their own insecurities, or they just forget what they used to be (or are coping well). Occasionally people can come around if you remind them that not everyone has had the support they have, whether it be professional or family and friends. I brought my ex around on this, he put some people down for not having jobs and I had to remind him that he had support in order to get his job, and those he slagged off didn't.
Sometimes people are just worn out and don't have the drive that others do, it's unfair of the ones with drives to look down upon those who are exhausted. We're not all the same in our abilities and coping mechanisms.
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I've left WP.