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08 May 2011, 3:30 am

It's a great day to be a guy...

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F1pSkUanU10[/youtube]


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12 May 2011, 12:36 pm

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There are women who like manly men, I'm sure!


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12 May 2011, 12:37 pm

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13 May 2011, 3:48 am

ikorack wrote:

Yup...you'll never get a girlfriend unless you're pulling your guts out for a capitalist. Seriously, I don't think a guy having a job with low pay and long working hours is much of a turn-on for the ladies.



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15 May 2011, 3:00 am

I take care of my family -- that is what a man does and that is the definition of being "manly." The question of how you express masculinity demonstrates a dilemma that both males and female face in society today -- what does it mean to be a man? It is risky behavior, weapons, prowess with the ladies, fighting, etc., and the list goes on. Defining female in the traditional sense is easy -- giver of life and nurturer. But men now nurture and stay at home with their children nowadays? Now it is even more confusing.

Not necessarily. In my experience being a man is not about muscle mass, what you are packing in your pants, parking in your driveway or how "tuff" you are. No, being a real man means that you make things work out for your family. Men are in the unique position of being able to be nurturers from a distance. Our bond with children in particular is not made out of biological necessity, but instead devotion This does not create any less of a bond with kids or family, it just means that being a man we, at times, have a wider field of vision.

Show me a man up at 3am with a scared child who just had a nightmare, comforting them to back to sleep, then you will see a truly masculine individual. A true man imparts a sense of security, permanence and love on his family.


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15 May 2011, 5:31 am

In different life stages the definition of being a man is different, the stage I'm in is in attracting a mate, which needs other qualities then being a dad.

But being a protector and provider could define the stage where you are at.


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15 May 2011, 8:26 am

Interesting......it was definitely BOTH my parents who looked after the family. I don't really understand what special responsibility falls onto the man - all the things that have been described could apply to either partner. What do they have to do with men in particular?



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15 May 2011, 12:40 pm

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Interesting......it was definitely BOTH my parents who looked after the family. I don't really understand what special responsibility falls onto the man - all the things that have been described could apply to either partner. What do they have to do with men in particular?


I never said it was man only or that all man are like this, just it could be like this. Cultural tradition has these roles played out atleast in Western societies for decades if not ages - Not judging right or wrong here.

I am joking around with a stereotype man image for a time now, but what defines us as a man could be explained from many perspectives. Biological, cultural, philosophical, tradition and political are just a few examples for explaining it. Personally I am appealed by the biological aspect, since it's most basic for in what makes us act masculine - testosterone.
This behaviour ofcourse is not reserved to the majority of males, but also to a minority of females.


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18 May 2011, 12:34 am

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So, what do you other guys do to feel manly? How do you handle your masculinity, etc? Let's get the conversation going.
I so manly, other men feel gay 'round me


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18 May 2011, 4:08 am

Wallourdes wrote:
In different life stages the definition of being a man is different, the stage I'm in is in attracting a mate, which needs other qualities then being a dad.

But being a protector and provider could define the stage where you are at.


I'd prefer it to go both ways :roll:
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23 May 2011, 5:37 am

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I take care of my family -- that is what a man does and that is the definition of being "manly." The question of how you express masculinity demonstrates a dilemma that both males and female face in society today -- what does it mean to be a man? It is risky behavior, weapons, prowess with the ladies, fighting, etc., and the list goes on. Defining female in the traditional sense is easy -- giver of life and nurturer. But men now nurture and stay at home with their children nowadays? Now it is even more confusing.

Not necessarily. In my experience being a man is not about muscle mass, what you are packing in your pants, parking in your driveway or how "tuff" you are. No, being a real man means that you make things work out for your family. Men are in the unique position of being able to be nurturers from a distance. Our bond with children in particular is not made out of biological necessity, but instead devotion This does not create any less of a bond with kids or family, it just means that being a man we, at times, have a wider field of vision.

Show me a man up at 3am with a scared child who just had a nightmare, comforting them to back to sleep, then you will see a truly masculine individual. A true man imparts a sense of security, permanence and love on his family.


I would agree. An uncaring father who has no care and compassion for his kids does not represent masculinity well.



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27 May 2011, 6:09 pm

can i just say in the uk football is watching fit men in tight in credibly short shorts run up and dow a field and sometimes they lift up their top and when somebody asks you "did you watch the game last night" and you say no because i dont like it then they call you gay and then you say i am not the one watching men run up and down a field :colors:


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27 May 2011, 6:15 pm

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can i just say in the uk football is watching fit men in tight in credibly short shorts run up and dow a field and sometimes they lift up their top and when somebody asks you "did you watch the game last night" and you say no because i dont like it then they call you gay and then you say i am not the one watching men run up and down a field :colors:


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28 May 2011, 10:56 am

MissyA123 wrote:
can i just say in the uk football is watching fit men in tight in credibly short shorts run up and dow a field and sometimes they lift up their top and when somebody asks you "did you watch the game last night" and you say no because i dont like it then they call you gay and then you say i am not the one watching men run up and down a field :colors:


You sound like you're having some fun at the moment. I wish I knew what you've been smoking. :P



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09 Jun 2011, 6:28 pm

We need rites to manhood too, but not like these:

http://www.cracked.com/article_16313_th ... world.html


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