Rainsong...That's so sad.
I know it will take time,but try to 'stop' revenge fantasies as you observe yourself having them.
They damage your psychological harmony and may be the intent of the torturor,in which case do not give them the satisfaction of controlling you.
I remember once I was betrayed selfishly by a friend,and the sadistic brutality of it tied me
up in anguished incomprehension,insomnia,revenge fantasies,anger,despair...
Years later I was informed she dyed in childbirth in her first pregnancy.
What am I supposed to learn from that?How am I supposed to process that?
Was the projection of my negative energy an influence,a message received and understood,carried out,hope you're happy now ?
What do I do with that knowledge,that the one I wished,fell into the abyss?
She was definitely psychotic,looking back,& suffered with it.
Suffered more that those who were close to her would not see.
The person that did that to your Aunts cat...
may be an aspy and not aquainted with empathy...
may be of low I.Q and thus forever feel a helpless victim in societies machinery...
may be genuiunely sick and thus these acts the only externalisation of a cry for help...
may be spiraling towards they're own tradgedy...
If there is any consolation here,it is,knowing suffering,know everyone suffers,suffers alone,
the perpetrator no less...
and turn your antagonism towards them into sympathy & compassion
and in doing this,your own suffering will cease.
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Be kinder than necessary for everyone is fighting some kind of battle
-Jaleb