A word of advice for everyone, mainly the younger generation

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I had an MRI done a few years ago when I started getting constant headaches to rule out a serious condition. It wasn't very fun, the machine was too loud and my claustrophobia was at an all time high... but there are worse things in life than an MRI. Like bad veins everywhere for when doctors need to draw blood

I've got to have one of those soon.

Drink beer and smoke cigarettes.

When I was a teenager I had to get surgery for a chronic ear-mastoid infection, and the day after the surgery they gave me a brain scan, or some kind of a scan, to check my ears. I was nervous and very uncomfortable, and just having been put under and getting the back of my ear sliced open and then stitched up the day before didn't help. But I had no bad experiences from the brain scan and was able to leave the hospital afterwards. I had to get that kind of surgery and scan done at least twice.

I had such a bad time with my ears as a kid. Didn't seem to be from not taking care of myself, that's just how I was, and I was pretty healthy except for that.

Advice for the Younger Generation:

Much younger, like post-millennial: Don't follow your peers into alcohol, tobacco, drugs, and sex. Just don't. I got out on everything but the tobacco. A lot of my peers are hooked through the bag and back, non-functional, and really depressing to look at now when I remember how brilliant and full of potential they were at 16.

Or else they're dead. I'm only 37.

Still young enough for it to do you some good:

Girls, before you get engaged, take a good hard look at his parents. If you wouldn't marry his father, GET OUT. If you wouldn't be happy living his mother's life, GET OUT.

Boys, take the same advice and reverse the genders. If you wouldn't marry her mother, GET OUT. If you wouldn't be happy living her father's life, GET OUT.

It doesn't matter what you THINK you want now. It doesn't matter how much they don't resemble the same-gender parent now. It doesn't matter how much you think you would never let that parent's life happen to you now. It doesn't matter. If you don't want your prospective partner's parents' lives, GET OUT.

Don't look for a spouse. Look for good friends and things you enjoy. If you do that and a spouse doesn't happen, trust me from the bottom of 17 years of unhappy marriage, all you're missing is a lot of heartache.

If your parents were anything like good to you, stay close to your parents as long as they're living. I don't mean never move out or get your own life, but stay close. In touch and within a reasonable day's drive if possible. I stayed in touch but moved too far, wasn't able (or permitted) to be there when my dad needed me, and will regret bitterly until the day I die.

I had MRI scans of my head 2wice as well as my neck, back, & CAT scan with dye(all at different times) & the back was the worst cuz it was the longest. It's still not that bad thou. Just noisy & confining & having to lye still for it.

Typically, I don't give advice because I believe experience is the best teacher. That said, I do have one observation from my 53 years of living - for some reason, just when things seem extremely bad, they can suddenly turn around and improve. The improvement could also be related to the absence of bad karma, but I digress.

Also, not to sound preachy, but I've been working very hard on eliminating, or at least suppressing, my emotions of ego, jealousy, hatred and anger. They are all negative and prevent me from achieving happiness.

Advice:Realize that everyone...even the f*****g a**holes...has had some suffering in their own life. No ones life is as easy as it looks. Even rich, good-looking successful people have problems, internal struggles, and suffer at least some of the time. It is very easy to judge people we don't like harshly, but choosing to cultivate compassion will make your internal life much better.

How is an MRI not fun?

I've never had one, but from what I understand there is no physical pain or anything involved.. you just lay down and let magnetic waves resonate through you & image soft tissue, correct? I suppose if you're worried about a medical issue it could cause anxiety, but the actual MRI process isn't anything to fear IMO. In fact, I'd LOVE to have one done on my brain to see how it's connected vs. the NT roadmap. There's an MRI clinic a few blocks down the road from where I live.. if I had money to burn I'd go there and have my head scanned in every direction just to be able to see the interconnectivity of my particular autistic brain. It's definitely on my long term bucket list.

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Advice:

Don't start a thread on advice and bring up MRI or you'll end up with a schizo-thread that fails to address either topic well.

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