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I live in Hampshire, England so its not a state per say so maybe the law is a bit lighter than where your from in America?

Also if I did attack him I could also cover my tracks becasue the bully does not really know who i am.

Ah ok. It does depend on where you live. But I just wish that adults: parents, teachers, principals can be more aware of bullies and keep an eye out. But I'm sure they are overwhelmed by other kids they have to teach and other personal issues. At my high school for awhile we had a security guard. No clue why. Can your brother go to a different high school? Maybe have him switch classes where the bully isn't in any of his classes? Let all of the teachers know, both your brother's and the bully's if not already done. You are right I'm in the US and you are in the UK so our laws differ. Maybe in the UK it's more stricter?

Like I said though do you think if I did attack him i could cover my tracks or not?

Do not attack him. Violence doesn't solve anything. Sure criminals do try and cover their tracks but the police will find out or other people will.

I wouldent say that. that bully will probably be sitting in a bar with his friends in years to come joking about the attack and showing no remorse. like i said his criminal record will mean nothing when it comes to him getting a job when he is 18.

he needs to sufferand feel the pain my brother did. to him its just one big joke and my bro will be having phycological issues for a long time to come. no the bully deserves far worse than just violence.

so i disagree violence can be an option in some circumstances.

Well you definitely don't want to result to putting the bully in the hospital or doing much worse than beating him up. His friends can protect him. I understand that you are very upset over what he did to your younger brother. I would be too. But if you were to do serious harm to this bully, how would your parents deal with that? I'm sure they don't want you to go to jail. If you wanted to get a job do you want a bad record?

Well ok then fair enough.

what about if i could get revenge over the internet or by mail or telephone?

I'd advise against that too Jamesy. I'm also fromt he UK and this year there's been a lot of press about how the police are clamping down on internet bullying, so if it's something you attempt then you run the risk of getting caught and being made an example of in the courts. The technology is a lot more advanced these days in terms of tracing people via internet/telephone due to the toughening of stalking laws in recent years and with more media focus on internet bullying, the police are going to want to look like their doing their job properly.

Bunneth what do you think is the best way to get the better of the evil bully?

Jamesy, I'd say before you do anything you really think about a couple of things

Firstly, are you 100% certain he doesn't regret his actions? As I've not met either of you I can't really comment but you never really know what's going on in another person's mind. The whole process of being arrested and going to court is sickeningly stressful for most people so I doubt he's had an easy time of it.

Secondly, if you do get revenge on him, what's to stop him doing the same to you and then where do you go from there? As it's already been mentioned, you're over 21 so classed as an adult but the courts, which means much tougher sentencing for anything you do and you have to consider if it's really worth it - because if you do then get prosecuted, will that make you feel like you've really got revenge over him? And how will your brother feel if you end up with a criminal record?

Maybe the best thing to do is to focus on your brother and try and forget about the bully. I know that you want to deal out your own punishment on the boy but please think about what the consequences will be for your family if you do; they've been through a lot already and right now they probably just want everything to calm down and go back to normal

Well given that I am 6'4 and the bully is 5'6 i think i could beat him. do you think given the size difference i might kill him by mistake?

It shouldn't be a matter of punishment, but rather that it's wrong to hurt another human being. You said the bully had trouble getting through school, so perhaps he took out his frustration by bullying. If you go out and beat him up, you are taking out your frustration in the same way, by petty violence. Do you really want to be that kind of a person?

Reminds me of when I was in Highschool and I got so sick of being bullied that I had several outbursts and ended up hurting them to stay away from me and revenge. Want to know what happend? I was the one treated as doing the wrong and treated as being crazy and unstable, it seemed that they treated getting revenge worse then the act of bullying, the most I got was that I was told that they were getting their own punishment, but I saw next to nothing hapen to them and it was very frustrating that I was getting the worst.

Want to know what hapends if you beat him up, he will get fricken sympathy, everyone will for sorry for the little prick because some angy adult hit him, he would probably get even more sympathy then what your brother is getting. And your get treated as a criminal who can not hold their own anger and and hurt a troubled minor, and you will be told that he was getting punishment and you had no right to do what you did.

It can be very frustrating I know when someone hurts your siblings, but probably the best you can hope for is maybe being able to scare him, possibly telling him that if he ever picks on your brother again that he will definetly regret it, my mother has done this to bullies in the past and it can be a bit sweet when the bullies think they are getting off. Just remember that bullies are cowards and that he might try to tell other adults on you, but if done right you might scare him but make anything he says just look like he is trying to make another strke against your/your family. This at least means that you did not give into petty violence and did not sink to his level.

Why do you think the bully fled the scene after the attack on my bro?

My brother stated that the bully litteraly 'vanished' after blood came up pouring out of him.

Ironcily this all happened outside the staff room in school. where are teachers when you need them?

Stupid on his part to assult somebody outside the area of the school where all the teachers hang out for lunch and meetings.