A Facebook thing that really annoys me

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Do you constantly go through photos in an album? What about those on your facebook?

I know I sure don't.

You'll see them every time you look at your profile, and if a friend sees them he/she might bring the subject up again.

The bottom line is, when you want to forget a relationship you've just got out of, you'll want to get rid of all the photos and stuff because you'll want to get over it.

I don't get over things by forgetting them or erasing all evidence of them.

Most people do.

*shrug* I guess whatever helps them cope. I just don't understand it.

I'm still of the opinion it's unnecessary to jump immediately onto facebook after a break up and change your relationship status. To me, it shows a possible addiction to either attention or facebook itself. It's also possible it would point to another personal issue... serial dating.

You make that many silly assumptions just because someone updates their Facebook profile? Really?

No. If I see them change their status, then it stands to reason they are on my friend list. This would mean I have a bit of knowledge on their character.

Obviously not everyone fits what I said.

So you base your assumptions on your personal knowledge of them, not by the fact they change their relationship status on Facebook and delete photos from said relationship as you seemed to suggest in your previous post?

Not exactly. I don't have any personal assumptions either way on photos, and I base my assumption on BOTH what I know of their character and what I see them doing directly after a break up.

Both are relevant.

See, thing is, you seem to assume that the first thing the person done after the break up is rush right to Facebook to get some attention. That could be the opposite of what actually happened. And don't forget that, if your status is "in a relationship with X person" and X person changes their status, it changes yours too.

And even if someone did update Facebook right after their breakup, I still don't get how you can make all those assumptions. If they posted a status about it, then maybe the attention part makes sense, but deleting photos for attention? If anything, deleting photos has the opposite effect.

I never said deleting photos was a cry for attention.

I don't see anything wrong with it. I tend to delete stuff too when something happens because I don't want to live the past. If I had a miscarriage again, I would have probably deleted my pregnancy photos because if people see them, they would think I was expecting and I would have to keep repeating myself I lost that baby and it be too painful to even look at them. If I lost my child I would probably delete his photos too because I wouldn't be able to stand looking at them. So perhaps that's how those people feel about their ex. They want to move on and not live that past and be hurt all over again when they see those photos. For a while I did not look at my old school mate's facebook pages because it hurt too much to see they had kids and I had lost mine. I didn't even go on the site because I hated when their photos of their kids show up on the home page when I get on under my account. You know the wall that shows what all your friends had posted on their wall.


Heck if I even lost an online friend, I'd be deleting all their stuff from my wall and PMs and everything because I don't need those past memories and then be hurt they had turned against me so if I don't see them, I feel better and I won't see the wonderful past and then be hurt. But unless their stuff was buried, I wouldn't even bother to go looking for it to delete it since I can't see it anyway. And I am lazy too to even do it if I did see it. I just don't open the PMs.

Then not too long ago my ex tried adding me as a friend on facebook and I didn't even accept his request. I don't want him in my private life and prying on what I am doing and then having to censor myself on forums because oh no since I have him as a friend, I can't trash talk him anymore so that means I can no longer talk about my experience in my past relationships anymore. Nope not doing it so no friends request accepted. I can't remember if I finally declined his request or if he canceled out because he was no longer on awaiting friends request list. Even my mom agreed to not add him because I want to move forward in my life, not live that past. I did try being his friend in the past but it's just impossible. Face it when you break up, you have nothing nice to say about them so why be their friend and be trash talking them, some friend you are. That would mean censor yourself if you wanted to remain their friend and I find that hard to do and I hate being censored so I would rather not be friends with my ex's.

And I did have my ex's on my myspace page as friends even after we had broken up but I took one of them off after that one phone incident over Dish Network and my first ex, he took me off because I changed my myspace name and he didn't recognize me so he thought I was a stranger who appeared on his friends so he removed me. I didn't bother re adding him and he didn't bother either. I had a meltdown over what happened with my second ex so I went online and changed everything to single and put my profile back up on a meeting site and went on a posting rampage here about him. It lasted for months until I got over it and then I didn't talk about him as much. I still don't talk about them as much because I am not stuck on them and not obsessed about it anymore.

You said, "To me, it shows a possible addiction to either attention or facebook itself."

I was talking about changing your relationship status *right after* the break up. I may not understand the photo thing, but I have no opinion of it either way.

I don't see how that's any more attention seeking than changing your status at any other time, though. Mind enlightening me there?

Wouldnt it make sense to add pictures of them at embarrasing moments?