Do you think this was a selfish act?

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The fact that he didn't leave a note makes it even more selfish of an act.

In my own experience, that depends upon how that statement is heard.

I was not part of my daughters' lives while they were young, and they have been affected by my absence back then. At the same time, my being there at that time while still the man I was at that time would have likely ended up being worse for my daughters than was my not being there at all. But then if we bring suicide into the picture, that would have just made everything worse for them all-around. They would have no longer had any father anywhere at all, and they might have even thought his death might have even somehow possibly been at least partly somehow because of them.

My younger daughter and I were talking about all of this just a few days ago. She has two children with different fathers, and one of those fathers is completely absent in the life of his daughter. The other child's father is in the picture, but he is far from being the kind of father any child would want to have if he or she had any say or choice in the matter. Nevertheless, I am glad the boy at least has his father in his life ... but that feeling of mine would easily change if that father might ever become any more "emotionally troubling" for that child than he already is.