Do you get sad when people die?

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No, and it bothers me that I don't feel what is considered "normal" during a funeral (or empathize with them).

Well I don't feel overwhelmed with grief, but I know I am unconsciously sad from the intense dreams I have when people die.

I not only get sad, I also start freaking out. The death of a close friend or a loved one is perhaps one of the few things in life that can truly do that to me. If someone I care about dies, I'll be a nervous wreck for the greater part of a season. I guess it's because I'm the kind of person that holds the few friends I do have close, perhaps closer than I should. If a friend or loved one dies, it's like I'm losing a part of myself.

Though I remember when I was younger I really didn't care much about that sort of thing if it didn't involve an animal. I went to a wake once when I was nine and said "Wouldn't it be funny if he got up out of the casket and surprised us all?" right in front of the deceased relatives, because I thought it would be funny. My mother took my brother and I back home that instant. Thinking about it now, I did miss the venison.

I haven't been really close to anyone who died. I didn't really feel anything when my grandparents died & I kinda feel guilty about that because lots say that not feeling anything is a dangerous sign of being a psychopath or extremely narcissistic or something. Some also say that you can have mental problems latter for not grieving. I'm affected by death in TV & movies thou but I'm more sensitive to fiction than real-life. Not sure if this makes any sense

dont worry about it, those on the spectrum dont feel emotions like NT's do. I found out that alot of aspies dont grieve at all. Grief is a very complex emotion my mom says and it may be too much for some aspies to handle or even understand. I dont feel grief either, but I do feel very unsure of how to comfort those who are grieving because I am afraid that I will say something that will seem cold because I dont feel what they are feeling. I guess it is like being under an umbrella with rain gear while others are getting soaking wet. I see the effects of grief, I want to make them feel better, but I dont feel it myself.

Not sure if I feel sad, I certainly don't seem to react to death as others do.
I get a lot more upset over the death of a pet, I can tell you that much.

When my dad died I felt cold when I found out, during the funeral I remember lots of family coming up to my mother saying how brave I was for not crying - I remember getting mad at people saying this because I didn't understand why I should have been crying, he was dead and that was that. When my best friend Alex died I didn't get much of a chance to get sad as I was busy looking after our friends.

When people die rather than feeling sad I want to immerse myself in it; when Alex died I went to the crash site to see the blood on the wall and saved pieces of the broken lights off the car he'd been in, I saved newspaper clippings, a mix tape of his favourite songs including those played at his funeral, and photo's - I wanted to not only preserve him but also to know every single detail of how he died. I like the idea of open-casket so I can see and touch the dead body. It's very morbid, but this is just how I deal with death.

Death happens, I feel confused and shocked over the idea that I'm never going to see that person again, not sure if this is the same as felling sad, what I do feel when someone dies is like described in this quote from Lemony Snicket's A Series of Unfortunate Events;

"It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. It's like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down through the air and there's a sickly moment of dark surprise."

Well i at least pay respect,if not sad.I think my uncle died young because he was a blasphemer.