what's your relationship with your mom like?

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Not very close, but our relationship has improved from when I was growing up and we were living together. We used to fight all the time, back then. Now, if we get irritated with each other, we just get off the phone and cool down a bit before the next time we talk. It's not ideal, but it's better than it was.

Not attached at all. We talk sometimes, but she always pushes me out.

Can't say I haven't tried.

How about you just come move in with us? You would get me as an adoptive sister as a bonus.

My mom and I are extremely close. We know how to make each other smile, and we're the only two reasonable people in our house.

Complicated and strained

I think I remind her of my dad a little too much, she divorced him over 10 years ago now.

We have differing point of view esp. on religion. I'm not religious, she is....


Oh and most annoying she treats like a child... I'm 24 and I have lived on my own in a different city for yers.


Atlas she does love and will try to help me in her way.

It's a roller coaster ride.

Sounds a bit like mine.

I love my mom, but she's the last person in my immediate family that would understand me. She's an absolute NT in every way, and has said to me on numerous occasions, "Why can't you just be normal?!" (Note: I have not been diagnosed yet. I also don't think anything less than a diagnosis would convince her that I really can't help being who I am. In the meantime, she prefers to think I'm just "being difficult", not that her daughter might have a different brain from the rest of the world.) Public appearances matter a lot to her, even if she doesn't know the people around us. I, meanwhile, couldn't care less. She wishes I were a girly girl living a by-the-books typical life. Instead, I'm that chick that hangs out with the guys and does everything her own way, even if nobody else is doing it like that. It drives her crazy. When she asks why I do this or that, and I give her a logical explanation, she just pauses because it doesn't make immediate sense to her. She wants to take me shopping. She wishes we could get makeovers together. She hates when I lock myself in my room for hours. However, she's never intentionally hurt me and I do believe that she's always tried to do what's best for me... we just can't see eye to eye, is all.

Terrible. She tries to understand me, but often acts irrtionally.

She has bipolar and arthritis and is extremely heavily medicated, but I think she just doesn't want to try to get her life together... she just leeches off humanr esources for all her chores/cleaning and does very little interacting with my younger brother. She claims she hates being on unemployment but jsut sits on her ass and watches TV all day. I would understand if she was too tired to do anything some days, but it's every f*****g day. People adapt. Then there's how she always finds a way to waste a few weeks every summer when me and her do nothing together...I just travel and get frustrated from all the changes in my surroundings and she goes about her apathetic lifestyle. Yet somehow she is well educated...how the hell does she have no lfie skills after being abused as a child and forced to subsist on her own!? It's madness!

I am glad I don't have to deal with her often.After my graduation present of my dream bass I want nothing to do with her, as she loves bribing.

Terrible. She tries to understand me, but often acts irrtionally. She often gets mad when I try to understand her current predicament to help her out and often personalizes general statements. She has bipolar and arthritis and is extremely heavily medicated, but I think she just doesn't want to try to get her life together... she just leeches off humanr esources for all her chores/cleaning and does very little interacting with my younger brother. She claims she hates being on unemployment but jsut sits on her ass and watches TV all day. I would understand if she was too tired to do anything some days, but it's every f*****g day. People adapt. Then there's how she always finds a way to waste a few weeks every summer when me and her do nothing together...I just travel and get frustrated from all the changes in my surroundings and she goes about her apathetic lifestyle. Yet somehow she is well educated...how the hell does she have no lfie skills after being abused as a child and forced to subsist on her own!? It's madness! She also tried to force religion on me...which is only for those that can't form their own philosophies.

I am glad I don't have to deal with her often.After my graduation present of my dream bass I want nothing to do with her, as she loves bribing.

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Nonexistent.

I never met her.

We rarely speak, I rarely saw her when I was growing up. We have very little in common, she owns an accounting firm; I'm going into medicine. She's a Muslim; I'm an atheist. She much prefers my sister, she occasionally sends a message through her. Last I heard she wished me all the best. In return, I wsh she'd forget I exist. She didn't want us when we were babies, we really don't want her now.

I certainly don't love her.

There's always the possibility that we who have Asperger's are also the children of those who have Aspergers...
I mean ... can you imagine that!
Completely alienated
No excuses
Fingers pointed
Hatefull eyes glaring
A community united against ... the innocent?
How would you excuse that? what reprieve could you find?
Maybe she's not there for you b ecause nobody was ever there for her and she's SO afraid that
you'll be like her

It's a love/hate relationship. She's also very Aspie-like but our personalities are almost exact opposites.

No, she relies on people too much and has far too wide a range of interests, and with age our interests narrow. Besides, she uses a lot of idioms and enjoys small talk to en extreme degree with a lot of social awareness. She just uses me as a kicking tre essentially and a source of money when she invites me (and forces me to visit longer than I requested.)

I would say its good overall however their could be room for improvement i say.

I have a love/hate relationship with her. you only got one momma so loving her is never really a problem for me