If a former bully of yours got cancer, would you be happy?

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I'm not sure. Deep down, I would probably feel that they're finally getting what they deserve, but I wouldn't project it on the outside.

Well, I, pretty much, feel the same way as the person who said the "45-50 years", thing----we're older, than most, on this thread.

Now, I can't deny that if, at-the-TIME (say, 12 or 13, or whatever), I heard of a bully of mine, getting cancer, I might feel a little niggle of: "Well, that's what you get, for ________"----but, for the most part, I would feel sorry for them.

I would feel MORE sorry, maybe, for someone who was holding a 40-year-old grudge, and being killed by BITTERNESS----because THAT condition, can be CHANGED!!

A bully from years ago?
I would be indifferent, maybe even a feel a bit sorry that he is being in pain. Past is in the past and I don't have enough contact with my past bullies to feel anything about them. They are like strangers now(a kind of strangers I don't want to make any contact with, but still strangers).

But if someone bullied me currently and I found out he has cancer with death sentence I would have ambivalent feelings. I would be indifferent or sorry for them being in pain (in school I rarely stood against my bullies because I didn't want to cause them pain - my empathy is broken so if I see someone in pain I feel their pain even if I hate them) but I also would be happy that they are going to die because I wouldn't have to deal with them much longer. I wouldn't think they deserve to die for bullying me but I would find the fact they are going to die convenient because at least the bullying would stop as a side effect of their death.
Don't get me wrong - I wouldn't kill anyone to get rid of them and I would probably even try to save a bully if they were to die in front of my eyes (my broken empathy wouldn't let me watch it without doing anything to help), but their death that wouldn't involve me would make a positive change in my life.

Cancer is a horrible thing, however I couldn't force myself to feel sorry for them after how sh***y of a person they were.

I put the "I wouldn't care" option.

I've often believed some particular person's bullying was a thing of the past, only to be reminded the hard way it was very much alive. Once they put you in your place, they don't take kindly any attempt to casually get out of it.

I had a grown 42 year old married-with-kids woman bully me a couple of years ago to the point where I considered drastic measures if only she would just stop and leave me alone. She threatened me, attempted to sabotage my marriage, put me on blast on public bash sites, it seemed like it would never end. If I found out today she had the worst, most painful possible cancer, I would be happy knowing the universe does deliver the karma people deserve. But someone from middle school or high school? Nah, I got bullied but not that hard so I still care about it now. No one even comes to mind.

there was no one in school who bullied me

i'm friends with most of the people who used to be mean to me

theoretically if there were someone who i didn't like and they got cancer i would probably laugh

I don't harbor resentment.

I've actually had that happen and watched a work bully dying slowly of brain cancer. He was a dick and had only bad intent toward me. Seeing pain in others, especially kids or animals puts me in physical pain though. If I see an accident - someone getting injured or worse - I feel like a big fist grab my lower back around my kidneys and it hurts! The thought of facing a person and seeing their emotion after I slug them or being with a person in lots of physical pain distresses the crap out of me, lol. I have synesthesia that scrambles my senses pretty well. When my dad had lung cancer, was screaming in pain, he was a remorseless criminal who had hurt people, caused the deaths of people, had f***ed totally up any chance for a half- normal life for me and my younger sister - I couldn't feel any schadenfreude over his painful death. I lack some mental filter and the smells and screams just went through my head with spikes of anxiety. Pushed out any thoughts of life providing a just payback. My mind insists on reminding me that one day, if we avoid early death, then totally whether deserved or not, we end up old, decrepit, and dying and one day it will be me looking out of those pained eyes.

I guess I would feel sad for them.

I would be indifferent. I only have feelings if I actually care for that person.

While I haven't met my worse bully again, I did run into a girl that wasn't exactly nice to me back in school.

I can assure you that it is likely they have forgotten all the crap they have done. She has. Plus, both of us are now grown-ups.

We are now acquaintances.

If someone does something bad enough to me to warrant a potentially fatal response, I'd do it myself.

Funnily enough, the person who bullied me for 3 years (this was 6-7 years ago) and started my spiral into depression which I still deal with today, got cancer two years ago. All I can say is that I hated him while he was bullying me, but after I found out he had cancer I wasn't happy, I don't think anyone would be. I wasn't incredibly sad about it I have to admit, but I hope he recovers either way, no-one deserves to suffer with cancer.

You know, I'd actually feel sad. Then again I do believe you reap what you sow. If you live a good, respectable life then good things will happen to you. If you live like a tyrant then you're doomed to destruction.