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Why are so emotional about this? Its like getting emotional about someone suggesting that you should tuck in your shirt.
a. apples and oranages
b. Let's not be condescending.
c. It's called clapping back and asking those who said it over the years how can I be reasonably be expected to follow said advice in all cases at all times?
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Your comments are irrelevent to the meaning of the expression. As I have aleady explained several times - its not about "never making assumptions". Its about being aware of your assumptions.
And, you're assuming that it is possible to be aware of one's assumptions in all cases. Not f*****g possible.
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You have to make assumptions in life, but you also have to be AWARE of what you're assumptions are.
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To the best of your ability but there will sometimes be that assumption that you may miss.
Second...you screw up in some way. What is wrong with folks explaining to you WHY and HOW you screwed up?
Nothing! I never said this.
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If the reason I screwed was because of a wrong assumption I made then I need to know that piece of valuable information. If you leave your dome light on when you park your car- whats wrong with someone politely telling you that...you left your dome light on- and you oughta turn it off..? Leaving a light on, or making a wrong assumption. Niether is a crime. Its just a thing a to avoid.
Of course!
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For example you cant assume folks know things that they may not know. If you're running an organization you cant assume folks are all on the same page. Have to make sure communication has occurred, and everyone is on the same page.
Of course! But, again to the best of your ability.
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But here is the main point:
You will understand the expression better when, inevitably in life, you will be on the opposite end...when folks make false assumptions about YOU. You will see how that feels.
Well, I've already been on the opposite end and I feel like it's a double standard. They can make all the double standards they want about me and my behavior yet I can't do the same to them. It's BS.
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When folks falsely accuse you of lying (because they project their own mendacity onto you), and project motives for the nonexistent lies onto you that you dont have (because they ASSUME that you have the same motivations they themselves have) then ...you will experience the flip side - and will ...have the urge to...beat the crap out them because they made an ass out of both you and themselves because of their false assumptions. Happens to me often. It will happen to you sometime. Its a two way street.
Already has happened! Usually, I ask them to show me where I lied and prove it. They usually don't.
02 Dec 2020, 8:29 pm
