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The counting threads.

Practically everything in PPR and L&D gives me a boregasm.
"Is this an autism thing?" threads.
"Am I the only one who...?" threads.
"I want to die" "I should just kill myself" threads, even though I can relate. They're not boring, I just don't like them. Too triggering.

Threads that have people diagnosing every celebrity with autism (unless it's just banter, but usually it isn't). I'm not saying these threads are wrong or shouldn't be discussed, I'm just giving my opinion.

Don't forget, there's no right or wrong in this thread.

NB No offence intended towards anyone who doesn't like/is triggered by threads around suicide etc.

To anyone who feels this way, please don't be put off from reaching out on WP.

- Sometimes I see threads where there are so many misconceptions built upon previous misconceptions that I don't actually know where to begin. I could start by correcting the first point, but the conversation has already moved on. Such threads have typically spiralled into a tangled web of incorrect connections and I've lost the plot.

- I try my best to skip all the Alpha - Beta conversations but I do sometimes cave and write a post. Generally these conversations bug me because they present the Alphas as a beacon of success and Betas as losers, but that's not at all how animal hierarches work. Granted, there's a whole lot of variation out there which is why it's so difficult to pinpoint how the average system functions. Every species of fish, bird, lizard, you name it, has a unique social structure. There are trends I've noticed, based on the species I know about, however I'm no expert and I can't account for every single animal.

Personally, since it's a subject of interest, it's difficult to restrain myself from writing an essay comparing the different animal structures. Betas aren't losers though. Their mating pool is considerable. I've never seen a system where only the Alphas are successful.

Rather, it seems far more common to see Betas develop ways to trick and sneak past the Alphas. The Alphas think they hold all the power, but there is plenty strength in numbers. So long as the Alphas at least think they have it all, and provide enough protection for the group to keep them around, then all is well.

Certain types of lizards, fish and birds have a third category. An androgynous, typically smaller male that may be mistaken for female at first glance. This group is not considered a threat to the Alpha group and they typically mate for life. Further, that's not even getting into the animals which have a completely different sense of sex and gender expectations then we do. Such as ant colonies, seahorses, clownfish and so on.

I could continue but this is exactly why I try to avoid the subject.

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I agree that mental health crises and suicidal ideation are extremely important emergencies.

It's triggering for those of us who have lost a loved one to suicide, and those of us who are dealing with another person's mental health decline (including oftentimes our own).

Very few of us on WP are trained mental health professionals and unfortunately, despite our best intentions, it's possible we could say something in response to those posts which could lead to disaster.

I don't think anyone means that they don't care about these posters or that they don't want to help.

I think the idea is that these are life-threatening emergencies, and they should be dealt with by appropriately trained crisis centres and mental health professionals.

I think we talked about having a sticky with resource information for people in crisis.

I hope it's still available so that no one has to face these horrors alone.

Any BS about trans people

Posts whining about OP not being able to get a partner, but also not being willing to change anything about themselves to get a partner

BS complaining about "higher functioning" VS "lower functioning" people, and acting like "higher functioning" people aren't deserving of resources and that "lower functioning" people have to hate every aspect of their existence

I don't care for those countring threads either. My mom has refered to me as a vampire before but she was not comparing me to The Count on Sesame Street Mom was talking about me staying up all night & not seeing me much cuz I spent most of my time in my room. I couldn't resist the joke I have nothing against others making & posting in those threads but I wish fun quizes & tests got posted somewhere like what character from this show are you & such.

Mostly long and or hard to read OPs and posts in the tread. Especially ones where people talk about themselves to excess. Post their "life story". Give out too much information.

I've learned far more about those who make short posts, than those who use 500 words to say what could be said in 50.

After that if it's a topic I'm not interested in and or a topic I can't relate to.

A lot of them.

Usually repeated threads; repeated topics, repeated questions -- for the same reasons anyone else already said and for obvious reasons.

A lot to do with specific relationship issues scenarios.
Romance and sex especially because I basically have zero experience and interest in the matter.

Anything to do with irrational conclusions and having to 'validate' them.
It's not the OP, it's me -- it reminds me of my irrational emotional self, a spoiled brat and is prone to jumping to conclusions, reminding me why I failed a lot of lessons because I see that part of me a frickin nuisance.
To see that to someone else who do the same is basically me having the same urge as wanting to punch a mirror.
To post whatever reaction I have at it would be a disastrous reaction that I know I hate to entangle myself with.

Almost anything to do with services, laws and policies.
I just literally am not at the right place to contribute except say 'it exists/doesn't exists here'.

Several social scenarios because social rules are not the same. NT cultures and contexts and it's dynamics are not the same.
I can only contribute related to human like foundations and anything that is common regardless of such boundaries -- the rest is unknown.

If I'm not in a mood of comparing between cases of Xs and Ys. Sometimes I do but don't post anyways, for being late or for being incomplete or for being out of time and place.
Sometimes I just don't.

Whenever I'm not in a mood to read or entertain someone's life stories from childhood to adulthood. Their diagnosis stories. Their realization stories. Their stories how great or how suck their lives are.
Yeah, it's likely they're at the start of their journey or whatever equivalent that is. But that's not the role I'm obligated play here, yes?

Anything that my reading comprehension couldn't grasp enough.
Anything I cannot relate well and be in a curious mood enough to go with it.

Oh, and anything that would demand a lot of adjectives from me. That just won't work out.

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Democracy rules here on WP. If a topic is boring then nobody responds and the thread dies.

Hate the counting threads.

Except for the "Numbers in images" one, which is awesome.

Dont object to folks crying about stuff because being a safe space for folks to cry is part of what this site is for.
So...pity yourself all that you want!

But I dont always have much to say in such threads so I often skip them.

Newcomers asking if "I could be aspie" is fine. The same stock answer applies to all of them. Just tell them "the possibility exists that you could be an aspie. But you have to go to a specialist, for the in person exhaustive battery of tests to actually be diagnosed".

Could do without those "I like chicken McNuggets. Could that be an aspie thing?" type of threads. And the "Is having a small head an aspie thing", "Is having a large head an aspie thing?", "is having a sweet tooth an aspie thing?", "is not liking candy in childhood an aspie thing?" type of OPs.

I thought of another type of thread I find really pointless & tend to skip. If the OP makes lots of threads about about having problmes & getting in trouble due to the OP regurarly putting themselves in a repeat situation or enverionment & the OP has been told numberious times by more than a handful of members to avoid those types of situations/evernionments. I probably shouldn't give examples cuz some posters would feel singled out. As the saying goes, You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

There's nothing wrong with newcomers asking if they're an Aspie, because it is nice to be able to discuss these feelings with other Aspies before seeing a specialist, but I personally don't tend to take part in them because I get baffled, and envious, at how so many people on the spectrum go all through childhood without their autism being noticed, especially if their symptoms seem quite prominent.

The "is this an Aspie thing?" threads annoy me too, when the OP is actually being serious asking about liking bananas being an Aspie thing or something.
I remember once there was a member who claimed that having a slightly asymmetrical face is due to autism and that their evidence to that was that they'd somehow measured faces of Aspies they knew and all their faces were a tiny bit asymmetrical. Then someone posted a link explaining that the reason why the Aspies had slightly asymmetrical faces was because it is normal for humans to have slightly asymmetrical faces . So that alone proves that some people only think of Aspie people and not the fact that the newest "Aspie thing" is actually a normal part of being human.