My Mother and "mood disorders"

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I'm thinking residential care will be a positive thing for you.

Some people are simply poisonous, and the longer you're around them, the more they kill you just a little bit more inside. I'm close with my immediate family and a few select others, but everybody else can go screw themselves. So I don't talk to them.

Your mother really needs an attitude adjustment. I can understand being annoyed by the questions, but not totally flipping out, being hostile, and making threats. It sounds like her problem, not yours.

I think that your mother has a lot of problems. She wanted this "perfect daughter" with "perfect friends". I also think that you should be in a safe place, where people will actually care about you. Your mother reminds me of Charles Babbit from the movie, Rain Man. How long has this been going on? I really think that all expecting parents should just sit down and consider that their child might have a disability, and than they should take parenting classes, in order to obtain a parenting license. If they fail the course, they shouldn't reproduce. If the mother is already pregnant, than she should give up her baby, when it's born.

She has always been slightly aggressive. She has became physical on occassion...not just the light spanking though.
Earlier this year she threw a glass cup at my leg and I had to get stitches. No I am not crying "sympathise with me I need attention" as some may think. I am just stating facts.

I think parenting classes would be a good idea. Parenting licenses would be even better in my opinion.

she's nuts hon' don't worry abot financial stuff or cars just be happy to get away
try to make friends or be happy with yourself
enjoy life right now
AWAY from your psycho mother
if I had a mother like that she'd not be my mother anymore

Um I'm pretty sure that's abuse.

And where the heck was Child Protective Services in all this?

Yep, I agree your mother's psycho. Getting away from her would be the best thing you ever did for yourself as these kind of people don't change no matter how you react to them. Quit blaming yourself, too. Nothing you do could ever justify that kind of behavior.

That can be worked out. That's for later, and those things seem to fall into place somehow. What matters right now is that you know that what she has done is not okay.

When people react with that kind of rage to a simple question, it is because they are really not right in the head. That is not reasonable.

And you are allowed to ask for sympathy.

You have mine.

I didn't contact child protective services. It would have been a good idea now that I think about it. I honestly didn't think it was necessary at the time. I thought that it was just a "one off" thing. Obviously not though.

I already know that my mother is not 100% "right in the head". She stopped taking her anti-depressants last year if I remember correctly...or early this year. I know what she did was not ok...I think that she should go back on her medication.

Well hopefully I will get a job soon...then I can save money for a car.
If I am going to move out of home, I need to be prepared.

omg....why the world is going nuts? i dont think residental homes are good for any aspies since im at one....not a good place too much rules for me...so what i do? i dont care a f**k(sorry) about rules

It sounds like your mother is rapid-cycling Bi Polar. Its best not to smart mouth someone like that because they can be dangerous. However she is verbally and emotionally abusing you if what you say she said to you is true. You need to report her to child and family services, your guidance counselors at school, the minister at church or any other authority figure. She is a fruitloop that should not be caring for children.

One thing that really helps me, is that after leading a whole life of not being cared for properly I could see that I had looked out for myself. I know it might be difficult to see, but you've adapted to the world in amazing ways. Being born like us is like being parachuted naked into Beijing - a lot of embarrassment, misunderstanding and confusion.

Once you can shed some anxiety you can really get a handle on your problems. We don't need to be provided solutions so much as to have our problems recognized. This helps because when someone else can reflect back to you that your instincts can be trusted, it makes it real. And once you know it's real, you don't need it reflected back anymore - it can come from inside. There's no shame in needing that. I did.

You'll be okay. Keep focusing on your interests; you have them for a reason! When you find out more about your interests, you find out more about you. And you'll feel you have a right to be you, which is the most important thing. Everything else will come from that.

What do you like about lions?

First of all, your mom sounds a lot like my mom was, when I was growing up. I would get verbally intimidated, even slapped, for asking questions. She was always saying things like, "You made me look bad in front of (Fill in the blank). If I fell and hurt myself, it was perceived as a ploy to make her look bad. IMHO, you are lucky to get away so young. I desperately wanted to get out of my mother's house, but nobody would believe the crap she was pulling. I feel damaged to this day.

My mother also had a lot of emotional problems, for which she did nothing. She used to regularly get so angry she would bite her tongue and scream with her mouth closed so it sounded like nonsense. She threw things, broke things, and threatened me. Practically anything could set her off. Eleven years after leaving home, I'm still disturbed by the memories. I wish I had gotten away sooner. You're fortunate to have a way out. I hope it turns out to be better than your current situation!