sad to get old

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Me to... i really would love to have kids i think, but at 32
it feels way to late now. That should have been done in my
earliy `20s. Being a guy i might not have the same biological
clock as females, but its there. But, if i get a kid now, its gonna
be 10 when i`m in my 40`s and thats just not an option.

So its sad to think about, i`m probably never gonna have kids

On the other hand, there`s some minor plusses, i see people
arguing with the ex, shipping the kid back and forth every week,
all cash goes to your ex and your kid, but you really dont have
anything to do with them, its not a familiy or anything. Because
i dont have any kids or anyone, i have the luxury of being able
to do whatever i want whenever i want, theres no one relying
on me at all. Theres some freedom in that, but i would rather
have a family if i could choose. Think i would be an ok dad,
because i would put 100% into it, both of myself and moneywise.
I would do whatever it takes. But to hell with it, wont happen anyway.

I have a "thing" thats a little bad in a way, a part of me. I`ve met
some really nice woman before, found out that they had kids, and
that was it, i just lost all interest in a second. Not doing anything,
it just happens. Perhaps because i always think ahead, and it just
sounds crappy to enter in round two and raise someone elses kid, i
really dont feel like being the back-up dad. In nature, thats the weirdest
thing you can do, take care of someone elses genes. It sounds so bad
and i dont like it, but its there. I can see a beautiful woman in the street,
suddenly a kid grabs her leg and she just disappears for me, gone. Hope
it stops because it feels a little wrong of me in a way, maybe should work on it.
Feel a little mean or something because of it, but it just happens.

Theres something else, how do guys survive 9 months of pregnancy? I flip
out just thinking about it, i would not sleep for 9 months, i would probably
go into bodyguard-mode, and i would worry constantly. Theres so many things
that can go wrong, both for mom and baby.. oh god, i get worried just thinking
about it i would be a nervous wreck in the end, worn down, and then you
have 18 more years ahead, at least, of worrying for the kid holy...sounds hard.
9 days of pregnancy sounds hard, 9 months sounds like a David Lynch movie
(nope, i dont have any experience whatsoever when it come to kids or kids
being born, apart from being one myself at one point, when kids are around i
find a corner to hide in and hope for the best, they`re a little freaky, dont understand
them and am afraid i`ll say or do something wrong)

A naighbour of mine is 41 and him look bare rough, I am six years younger then him; I shudder.

I've felt old since I was 18.

There isn't a day where I don't feel old. The saddest thing is that I haven't accomplished much in my life so far.

My boyfriends parents didnt have him until they were 34. And they're still quite active at 56.

They are much better than my parents who started popping out kids at 19.

Its funny to think that if his parents were like mine they'd have a 14 year old grandchild right now, instead of an 18 and 21 year old son


The more educated to tend to wait until their 30s to have kids, but I think that has a lot to do with the fact that they often don't get out of school until they are 27 or 28 and then want to wait until they are financially able to support children

Ah to be in my 20s again! Would love to be able to go back in time, & do things differently. 27 is not old, even if you feel it is. I am 46...also not old, but physically I do feel many years older than my actual age.

As someone else suggested, find out what you love & pursue it. That's really the best thing you could do! Working at a job you hate...that's the worst!

Good luck!

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""As someone else suggested, find out what you love & pursue it. That's really the best thing you could do! Working at a job you hate...that's the worst!


Yep, here it is again, the recipe almost for how to make the days
not suck as hard. Work with/do something you like/love to do

I'll be 30 next year. This is somewhat perturbing to me as I don't feel like I should be that old, but time has just flown by since I left full-time education and entered into the rat-race of employment. That's what scares me a little... but as long as I feel happy at least sometimes, and can continue doing stuff I like to do, I guess there's no real harm in it...

So sorry to hear that ...

Several years back I met a socereress, and she gave me a potion so I don't age anymore. I'm 50 for ever ! !!

I turned 55 today. All you damned kids get off my lawn!

well, i'm only 17 and thinking about gettin old IS scary, i think about it every now and again,

Like it'd be awful that we're gunna die in like 40 years time or maybe before that depending how your health is,

But years go quick i mean it only seemed like a week ago i was only 6 or something, 10 years have gone quick if u really think about it, it's mad.

Heres a example of how to not get old, my dad worked
like a man from he was 15 and up to 54. He drove trucks,
dug trenches for electric cables, put up telephonepoles,
built houses and machinery all by himself, he was a loner.
Then, one day at 54 he cut the grass, and dropped dead.
Gone before he even hit the ground. Not one f****** day
off, that was it. That scares me. That, and i have his genes.
If i could, i would trade places with him in an instant, he really
deserved some time off before he kicked the bucket, a real
nice guy, he always helped you if you asked no matter what

I LOVE this thread, with all you youngsters moaning and groaning ! !!

I dare any of you to send a PM to sinsboldly and tell her you feel old at 31 ! !!

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You have a point

and still, at 32 i feel all worn out, i`ve lived enough for two lives in some ways.
If this continues, i`ll feel 135 if i get to 60. It sounds dumb with people in their
30`s talking about being old, thats true. In many ways i`m still 14 inside, but
a part of me has lived to much and are ready to call it quits, age is a number but
also how you have lived sometimes. I`m done in a way, need no more of this
thing we call living, it has lost its golden hue a long time ago. So i do what i can
to make the days until i drop dead go by without to much pain. The first thing i
associate with life, is pain, endless streams of pain over and over, people can decive,
pain is real, one of few real things thats constant.

I`ve met men in their 50`s that didnt know anything and in reality they were closer
to 15. And, i`ve met men in their 30`s that had lived for 60 years already.. Life
can really kick some ass if it wants to