04 Jan 2018, 9:33 am
@Nick007:
I'm so sorry about your pets. I lost a brother and sister kitty to cancer within months of each other - back in 2000 - but they were diagnosed the same day, and it was like having a ton of rocks dropped on me. It's just awful. I'm so sorry.
Please don't "write off" the idea of more pets later on. I have taken in and loved three more kitties since then and I'm so glad I did, because they have been wonderful. That can wait, but please don't decide now that you'll never love a new pet again. Maybe it won't happen, maybe it will. My life would have been so much emptier without my Sandycat, and I adopted her in spring 2000.
Oh, I'm sorry your dad went through kidney stones too. I can't force fluids yet - yesterday I had a plumber's visit and today I have a doctor's appointment, and I live in a rural area. Trying to drive 45 minutes when you really need to pee is just torture, so I'm taking citrate and keeping hydrated without drinking extra. Phenazopyridine and BenGay are my best friends today. As soon as I get home from the doc, though, I'll begin forcing fluids. Thanks for the reminder, I'll pick up some extra bottled water while I'm out 
@Claradoon: I've used the same trick you use, it worked well for me. Your avatar is beautiful, is it your own artwork?
(I have an exhibit poster featuring this http://www.artandnature.com/bateman/dozinglynx.jpg framed in my LR - bought it in 1990 at a gallery exhibition. It did not cost then what it apparently costs now.)
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04 Jan 2018, 8:44 pm
^^ Yikes. You went through hell!
What I'm dealing with is deeply unpleasant, but I can function (mostly) and I know there's a light at the end of the tunnel (oh dear, don't examine that figure of speech too closely). 
05 Jan 2018, 3:41 am
My running nose 
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05 Jan 2018, 10:16 pm
having to go "OW..... OW...." with every step. 
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06 Jan 2018, 5:27 am
I'm so sorry about your pets. I lost a brother and sister kitty to cancer within months of each other - back in 2000 - but they were diagnosed the same day, and it was like having a ton of rocks dropped on me. It's just awful. I'm so sorry.
Please don't "write off" the idea of more pets later on. I have taken in and loved three more kitties since then and I'm so glad I did, because they have been wonderful. That can wait, but please don't decide now that you'll never love a new pet again. Maybe it won't happen, maybe it will. My life would have been so much emptier without my Sandycat, and I adopted her in spring 2000.
Oh, I'm sorry your dad went through kidney stones too. I can't force fluids yet - yesterday I had a plumber's visit and today I have a doctor's appointment, and I live in a rural area. Trying to drive 45 minutes when you really need to pee is just torture, so I'm taking citrate and keeping hydrated without drinking extra. Phenazopyridine and BenGay are my best friends today. As soon as I get home from the doc, though, I'll begin forcing fluids. Thanks for the reminder, I'll pick up some extra bottled water while I'm out
Don't worry I plan to get another pet at some point. Our cat is more Cass's than mine & I do like cats OK but I'm not a huge fan of them. Cass likes having two pets & I wouldn't mind one that's more mine. It may be good to wait a while thou before getting another rodent to give the sickness time to dye out. We're leaving in a couple weeks to visit my family & we'll be gone 3 weeks so we're not going to worry about getting another pet till after we're back. We will get another one but aren't sure what & how soon it'll happen.
It is rough not having good running water in your place. Hopefully you have water by now. I hope your appointment went well & your feeling somewhat better.
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06 Jan 2018, 2:48 pm
Neighbors kids making noise, it is the house next to me. I wish I could live in a soundproof apartment building 
06 Jan 2018, 3:15 pm
Stuff nostrils with bits of Kleenex, only if you're home. Be aware that, although this provides relief, it is also grounds for divorce.
I do that too. My doc prescribed post nasal spray, because small daily bits are going down the throat even if you're not sick. One spray a day. I'm clear. Hope this helps.
I been having alot of problems with my nose too, my nose been running & I been coughing (I have mucus in my lungs) Winter is very bad for my nose, I stocked up on Kleenex
06 Jan 2018, 3:44 pm
perhaps it is indeed better i do not live somewhere where the roads are salted.
What could possibly be wrong with California except earthquakes, fire, and flood?
May I ask, which part of California?
Sorry to be so nosy but hating California really piques my curiosity.
no problem. those are part of it, yes, and ever since the big fire i have been left wondering what on earth i am doing in a county where the average home is a million dollars, and you pay four dollars for your gallon of gas just to drive to your job where wages haven't increased in decades, just so you can have a minuscule chance of paying off your home before your death...but what will it matter if it's just going to burn down anyway, and there's not even any water to put out those fires thanks to the drought? AND, whatever water we DO have, is being stolen by f*****g disgraceful, shameless corporations that are apparently allowed to do whatever they want because they're "people"?
no.
they're more important than people! but of course!
the absolute STATE of america, everybody!
ever-increasing tourism to these parts sends the cost of living skyrocketing, forcing everybody who was just only managing to get by out of the city and creating massive flight to other areas, depriving the city of so much of what arguably makes it so special-its people!
and on a more personal note, i am someone who already struggles with feelings of worthlessness and being a leech in general, and when i am surrounded by vacancies and overcrowded apartments, whatever available living spaces we do have, are FAR beyond my financial grasp, often requiring rent and utilities payments that would be typical of a multiple storey luxury homes in many other states. add to that the fact that, besides my girlfriend, i have no other friends to serve as prospective roommates with whom to split the costs of living, it's not a stretch to imagine increased feelings of suffocation and entrapment. on some days i have been led to believe it is all an elaborate ruse by my parents to keep me dependent on them, forever. "paradise" tax, they call it.
the climate is pleasant until you realize it no longer resembles anything that can be called "mediterranean", and "arid" is probably more fitting for what we've had these last few years, save offshore currents and coastal cooling effects.
i wish i was kidding when i say we have had less than .1 inch of rain in the LAST 200 DAYS.
my girlfriend and i have been discussing moving up north after college, but this is so far a pipe dream as she is still in high school and i am shamefully directionless (yet thankfully, employed)
i smell a WAR on the middle class in america and almost nowhere is it more evident, than in santa barbara.
it's a miracle my folks have held on for as long as they have.
I live in California, I live near LA, I don’t like living here, mostly TOO SUNNY, I have Psoriasis, the sun is my enemy in more than one way
06 Jan 2018, 6:15 pm
the sun is my enemy in more than one way [/quote]
It's is, that is not good
06 Jan 2018, 11:30 pm
I don't know if royally P***ED is the same as Unhappy, but it definitely means I'm not happy at all.
Let me start off with a jarring statement...
I absolutely, unequivocally, with a darkness and depth that only black holes can match, HATE my Father. He is a textbook Narcissist, he's an abusive, cruel drug addicted alcoholic. And it breaks my ****ING HEART that my Mother still has love for him because she thinks somewhere in that mess of utter garbage is the person she loved once. I don't know if that person even existed at all or if he was just exceptionally clever at faking the personality he presented back then.
That being said, this bag of dicks is now playing games with my Mother's health. She requires a brain scan, and a test for her auditory function. They called to schedule the test/scan, but they called HIS cell number instead of hers. Which they keep doing no matter how many times she asks them to change it. (I should probably add that they don't live together, my Father moved back into his childhood home to care for his ailing Mother and has stayed there though she's passed) He deleted the number, didn't take down any information, and finally tells her tonight "Yeah I wasn't going to tell you but maybe it's important so I guess I should." that they called him.
Why, you ask?
Because he's mad at her.
He's risking her health, because he's mad at her.
Why is he mad?
Because she refuses to sleep in the same bed with him once she moves over there (the house was left to him) because he doesn't shower, refuses to put his false teeth in, has drug sores all over his body, and walks around all 300 flabby alcoholic pounds of him in Tightey Whiteys. And when he asked "What's the problem?" after incessantly hounding her about it for months, she snapped and just blurted it all out. So he got mad and is pulling petty little games like he always does when being a mean nasty bastard doesn't work.
I am so furious right now I'm shaking. It's been an hour since I found out, and I'm still so angry I'm having a hard time controlling myself. (I have anger management issues, wonder where THOSE came from ) I'm well aware of why it's important and necessary to control myself and my reaction to my anger. So I'm posting here, because all I can think about is driving over there, getting as close as I can to his face, and telling him that if something bad happens to my Mother because of his petty narcissistic bulls***, then he better fear me like his good Catholic family fears God.
I'm really hoping I can talk her into leaving finally and living with us. She needs to. She doesn't need to waste what's left of her time here in misery with that useless monster.
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