racheypie666 wrote:
Froya wrote:
Anne and her husband has a great relationship. Several years back Anne told him that he either had to stop the drinking or she would leave. (He became verbaly abusive towards her when he was drunk) He stopped the drinking! Do you think this is conditional love on Annes part?
That's not an example of conditional love, that's an example of a conditional relationship.
If Anne's husband had carried on drinking, she would have left him. That was the condition she applied to their relationship.
But she might still have
loved him, and had love for him, after they had separated. You can't switch love on and off with conditions.
That's very wise. It makes sense to me.
I love my brother though I know he has done despicable things. I'm pretty sure he has taken someones life.. However I have started to feel less motivated to give to him, because he gives so little back. He doesn't really want contact. I'm always the one that takes the initiative to contact. Then he says he is busy and will call me back, have only called back once. I have always gratulated him on his birthday, BUT not last year. I have started to feel less motivated to give to him..
I don't think my love for him has died, but maybe chilled.