Krabo wrote:
Raleigh wrote:
There's no way anyone can help anyway.
So it's a pointless exercise.
I can relate to that. The only good thing, it seems, about being helped is the other person's experience in how it feels to help somebody. In most cases the person being helped is left on their own. This is preposterous and I'm inclined to think that nobody can really help anybody.
I think a lot depends on the intent of both parties, and the level of understanding and agreement. Where we can measure this kind of thing, result indicate it's possible for people to help each other, but it can also hurt the intended recipient. I guess I've been on both sides with both results, and can easily think of an example of each of the four cases.
I want to improve my skills, and someone teaches me how.
Someone has a wish for me which I don't share, and tries to help by bending me to their will.
I surmise correctly how to solve a problem someone else has, and they apply the solution to good effect.
I try to explain to bigots how their views make no sense and harm people.
One can find examples of each on a larger scale in the context of international aid. Many humanitarian agencies have covered up their mistakes in the past, and some continue to do so, but I have noticed a trend toward greater disclosure. The scientific method works, so I have hope.
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