Magna wrote:
caThar4G wrote:
I'm getting very depressed and hurt.
I'm trying my hardest. I'm running out of steam.
Our first had colic. The most exhausted I've been in my life were the times when our kids were newborns and I played a very active role in helping my wife nurture them. One thing both of us said reflecting back is that when we were "in it" (e.g. the colic), it seemed like it would never end. Neither of us could perceive a "light at the end of the tunnel". We could only focus on how exhausted, hopeless and helpless we felt. We realized after that with our other kids that it gets better and that you have to take help where you can and get sleep, even micro-naps any and all chances you can get. When not caring for our newborns, our primary goal, bar none, was sleep for ourselves.
Do you have anyone that can help you get some rest?
Thanks, both of you.
Sadly, the father is not around, and apparently talking with him just makes me depressed.
My mother can only come once a week.
I don't know of anyone else who would yet.
A part of loosing my steam, is there's an alarm that's been going off for hours in my left neighbor's apartment for days. The good: it's not so loud that I can't block it out with a fan on low, and i can't hear it in my room or bathroom. The bad: it's on for most of the day except the wee hours of morning and late at night, so I have to keep the fan on if i don't want to get even more irritated.
Today the maintenance man said the manager is trying to contact this neighbor to get permission to turn it off (it's not a smoke alarm). They've been gone. I left a note on the door.
I hope they come back soon. This is really affecting me and my routines and composure. Is there anything else I could do for now? If they don't come back soon, I may have to do something else, if i can.