Post something that made you UNHAPPY today.

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My neighbor's dog made a steaming hot mess on my lawn and my neighbor didn't pick it up. Now, there's about a thousand flies on it. Every time someone opens the door, two get in. I feel like having my son hold her down while I take a **** in her face.

Me & my girlfriend had to get paperwork approved by someone who's intentionally incompetent. I think we may have to give up being on that housing waiting list because it's blatantly obvious by all the time they've been wasting & the hoops we have to jump through that they do NOT want to provide housing for us.

For some reason, I was feeling angry while breastfeeding my son. I was probably just cranky.

Well, due to the actions of a hacker(s) all the emails which were in my inbox have all been deleted as, this has not only affected me, but all the other users & businesses that have been using a more private/secure email system since 2002..I'm hoping that my email contacts were no wiped out as well, cause I can't remember some of the email addresses of said persons nor, do I have the means of getting back in contact with such persons to require stated information.....Well..

snow and ice.

Seeing the clock say 5 am. I hate that time as my mother died then.

I feel a great deal of sincerity and honorable emotional content for how your feeling at this juncture

Thank you, Longshot. I feel the same way about 14.20 as my father died then.

My father's time was 12.09
I'm bothered by that time and even by December 9th.

My mother took all the money out of my account because Im not "responsible enough" and I just waste it all by spending it on things that are taking time away from my studies which will lead to bad grades which leads to no degree and no job and I'll eventually end up unemployed and homeless and poor because I wasted all my money instead of getting a proper education.
(I rented a movie. One. Movie. Ive been in college for several months now. Also, I won that money fair and square so its not even remotely 'hers'!)

You're an adult, set-up a second bank account that she has no access to, stash your money there. If you work, transfer your direct deposits there. If she complains, tell her this is in response to her behaviours and that you'll take whatever measures are needed to keep her hands off of your money.

If you tolerate being treated like a child, she'll continue to treat you like a child. If you want to set a boundary that you're entitled set and maintain as an adult, you'll have to enforce it and accept that autonomy carries costs. If you're unwilling or unable to accept those costs, you'll probably have to make peace with continuing to be treated like a child.

Thinking about all the "potential" I had as a kid, how I was told I was "gifted," how they all said I'd grow up to be something great.
I grew up to be incredibly forgettable. Now, I'm not THAT hurt by this personally. I'm in an okay spot by my standards. But every once in a while, I think about what I COULD have been if I had had any motivation.
And it makes me just a bit remorseful. Just a bit, that is. Then I go back to my usual shenanigans.

You make it sound so easy....
1) I dont actually know HOW to set up a separate bank account
2) I dont work, so my mother sends me an allowance every month for food and other necessities. Which I kinda need
3) I have several subscriptions linked to my card. One of these is for my pony's monthly smartpak which is on my mothers account so I cant change the card. More reasons why I need that account
4) If I were to do that Id be in so much trouble. Like- I should start planning my funeral trouble.
5) Id also be completely broke cause then she'd definitely take all my money and she'd no longer be giving me any. There goes eating and driving
6) Theres also the issue of my other money. My account never has too much on it at a time. My savings account however, has all the thousands of dollars Ive saved over the years for after college. Ive never even touched that account- its completely under my mothers jurisdiction and I have no way to access it. Id be losing a crap ton of money by angering my parents
7) The prize money from Nationals and the money from my businesses are "mine" but the other is, technically, "hers" through birthdays, christmases, allowance, travel money etc.
8] My mother is a very 'all or nothing' person. She'd most likely respond all overly dramatic and stop financing me at all. Which would include college. Which I definitely cannot afford
9) Is it really worth it to argue? Am I really willing to risk my parents being that mad at me for something as silly as my mother not letting me buy stuff? Seems kinda petty.
10) I dont know why people believe this, but saying "Im 18 now I can do what I want" DOES NOT under any circumstance actually count for sh*t. Seriously. My parents would be all "Im ___ and still your mother so you'll do as I say". Their house, their rules right?
So you see.....Its not quite so simple. Im sure if I make a compelling enough argument with a substantial amount of bribes and sucking up and just a touch of groveling, she'll give most of it back

My breasts feel large and heavy

Voice woman

Body feels weak, old, lethargic

Some idiot had the nerve to say "what " to me



Trump is president

Mister redelings and other homophobic ass holes did not apologize the f**k up

Ate til bloated at trader Joe's



No emails from friends

Rain forecasted for the rest of the week

When I woke up I was not a skinny smart handsome cisgender neurotypical white man

To be fair, I basically laid out what I had to do when I was your age and in a largely similar position in terms of finances and dependency, I'm not 100% sure cuz I did work part-time, but only limited hours. I was also still in high school and year minimum from having adequate credits to graduate. All of the concerns you mention had to be weighed, and the consequences considered - as well as potential strategies for dealing with those - I knew they'd punish me, but they understood I too could and would impose consequences and that since I wouldn't tolerate being punished that effectively made that route more likely to lead to exponential blowback than to achieve the desired outcome. Basically, while it might be fair to suggest I was using 'adulthood' in an inherently childish and immature way, once I pointed out that pretty much any repercussions to the current set of 'autonomy goals' could be countered with additional ones and that I was absolutely prepared to respond in my usual scorched earth manner it forced a new, more lenient approach.

I was both bigger, and since I hadn't started smoking weed regularly a lot meaner so it's not like a physical response was ever even considered.

You can't kick someone out who's already used moving out as a potential response. If you're already not living there that's a non-issue, you already hold the high ground.

Once the new account is setup, that leverage is removed (as long as you follow up on all your expenses and direct deposits, but if you do it at the same bank they often can help with that). If you have a valid claim on the money and move it, you've taken the initiate and forced the other party to respond - if your mom really wants to take you to court she can try, but even then she might waste a bunch more money and lose, that's not a likely consequence so if you wanted to take the initiative you'd succeed and remove one source of leverage she has; you know, unless you'd rather leave that stick in her hand for her to hit you with, at least once you're holding it you get to decide how it's used from that point on.

Ultimately you gotta make your own cost/benefit analysis and I'm not questioning that you've made it correctly for your circumstances, temperament, way you value everything involved etc. I'm only suggesting that it's not inherently impossible. You've probably responded more maturely than I would have/did at that age, but that's not to suggest it's not a 'winnable' scenario.

I find an easy metaphor to explain all of my 'childhood potential' vs. how badly limited I've demonstrated myself to be in adulthood due to deficits of executive function is to think of a drag car with a stupidly powerful engine, super-grippy off/on racing clutch, but little 175 width summer economy tires on the back, on ice (maybe on pavement for the tasks you like). All that intellectual potentially can't possibly be put to what appears to be the 'potential' maximum outcome, because the ability to put it to use never actually existed and just wasn't noticed because as a young child everyone is severely lacking in executive function, and if anything your moments of hyperfocus suggest a well-beyond average ability to commit to tasks; later in life those 'less gifted' mundane individuals will surpass you because even though they only got several hundred HP instead of multiple thousands, they got big, wide racing tires and can actually apply all of their potential, or at least more of it than you and I.

Oh well, just try to enjoy doing donuts and try not to crash.