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Yeah, our town dynamic has changed somewhat over the years, also getting into a couple of bad relationships and the pursuing gaslighting has not made things any easier. Somethings cannot be fixed as with some mindsets. I have felt like i have been in a fish bowl for sometime now and need to change that and i dont think that change can happen where i am at present, and other flatmate handed in notice today to live cheaply on his own land, cant blame him at all as i would likely do the same... House mates are all good, but still feel like being a parent to 3 people that cant be arsed to help out around the house, so with the increase in rent we have just had, plus losing 2 flatmates, i think it is time to move on.

I suppose a fresh start would be good.
It's a shame because from what you've described and the picture you posted once it seems you're in a really nice location.

Yeah the location is awesome... But sometimes peoples actions to save their own skin have permanent effects. Last 2 years has been a bit of a hell and i can not see that changing, so i need to make that change and look elsewhere.

Are you planning on living by yourself next time?

Absolutely... Unless there is no other option... Just where i live, accommodation is very limited and house prices have gone through the roof the last few years, so even a 1 bedroom place IF it was available wouldn't be much change short of $275 week before bills... and making a buck here can be difficult as no one ever wants to pay you for your work, only so much barter i can take and even with that when i follow it up they refuse, so need to do a little travelling to find a safe, nice spot, Australia is also on the cards as it has been on my mind for a few years.

Wow, that's expensive.

You can get a three bedroom house around here for less than that.

You just have to put up with the stinking heat, cyclones, floods, bushfires, bogans, snakes, the list goes on...

Would rather deal with all that than deal with some peoples illogical logic as i do here daily! lol ... Spent some time solo trekking in the Malaysian jungle and felt quit at home despite the leaches, snakes, tigers, scorpions etc
Yeah, used to be cheap here when i first arrived 17 years ago but also knew that it wouldn't last, house prices here have rose 33% in just the last year.Many are on minimum wage and cant afford to rent hence why many move back with family or move elsewhere. Its a large house i live in but still has its own issues and dealing with so called adults that just sit and watch you do everything without even offering to help becomes somewhat frustrating to say the least. But people are people. Am good at low and slow BBQ amongst a ton of other things so might work in AUS... i normally scope out a place for a year to watch the dynamics then create something that works for that area.. So no shortage of ideas there.

I wish I had some ideas.

You have many, more than you give yourself credit for sometimes Then i can be a bit like that... Suppose i have been lucky somewhat as i have worked in many different areas and know its actually quit easy to start a new project ... Even go so far as to do thorough market research for an area and what wealth is held within the CBD ( Central Business District ) .. Doing this right and finding out from the people in the area is a good way to find a market gap, however seems alot of businesses fail due to poor location and wanting to start something they like as opposed to what is needed for that area. Also i do prefer working alone, so i will likely be doing IT somewhat for most of my life anyway, so nice to spread the eggs about rather than have all the eggs in one basket, so to speak.

I used to make some money making and fixing things, but I'm a bit crap at that now.

Am just learning what works for me, often pushed myself because of social expectations and anxiety/sensory symptoms would always be overwhelming and never get any better. Now i know what i know i am having to change many things so i can feel more comfortable and stress/sensory free.. But somethings i cant avoid, like having to go to supermarkets etc, but even then i choose the quietest times if i can.

I always worked in people industries because I like helping people, but at the same time I was helping them I was making myself ill with anxiety and depression, so my mental health really suffered.
And I became practically alcoholic to deal with it all.
Then my physical health suffered.
I blame my undiagnosed autism also.

Yup, can also relate. Hence why i now try to do things that suit my environment... Luckily i dont like the taste of alcohol so haven't gone down that path, that said after a few breakups the last few years and its results, i did turn to the bottle on a few weekends, but it takes weeks for my body to recover so dont really drink.
Have spent a lifetime helping others, now giving me a little of that time, despite it pissing some people off! I dont get that!

You're supposed to do everything for everyone.
The more you do, the more they expect.
Better not to GAF.
I'm pretty cold in a lot of ways.

Yeah, i keep telling myself not to GAF but still do, somewhat genetic from my mothers side i think! lol... As far as where i will go, hmmm My mentality is that the planet is my home, so am not emotionally fixed to one spot, despite where i am now has somewhat grown on me over the years.