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05 Feb 2012, 9:20 am

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I am going for part 3 of an assessment soon.


I'm going to my first ADD assessment this Tuesday, and then the second part on Friday.

I'm worried, it's a long test, and I don't know if I can concentrate through the whole thing. Which is, I guess the point. But still, a four hour test is stressful!


I'm worried that i'm not not concentrating enough :lol: I've not had any 4 hour stretches to do though.

I spent a lot of time meditating which gave me an ability to concentrate, which I tend to turn on in important situations, or social situations. I can't do it 24/7 though. I run out of concentration juice.

My major fear is that I'm going to 'fail' the assessment and be left without support. In which case I'll have to try something else.

I'm not really that keen on the idea of medication, really.


If you pass, what sort of support are you hoping to get, if not medication?

I hope I pass, and get put on something like Adderall. It might even help with my oversleeping!


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05 Feb 2012, 9:31 am

My new psychiatrist decided I have ADHD despite only meeting me once and not being qualified to do so.. now all troubles are ignorantly attributed to it and I get no support for mental health or the alleged ADHD. This is not Sparta, this is madness. Also, how does one judge popularity? I'd say I'm unpopular I'm real life, but I don't know about here. Thewrll seemed smitten with fudo;)



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05 Feb 2012, 9:49 am

AnnettaMarie wrote:
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I am going for part 3 of an assessment soon.


I'm going to my first ADD assessment this Tuesday, and then the second part on Friday.

I'm worried, it's a long test, and I don't know if I can concentrate through the whole thing. Which is, I guess the point. But still, a four hour test is stressful!


I'm worried that i'm not not concentrating enough :lol: I've not had any 4 hour stretches to do though.

I spent a lot of time meditating which gave me an ability to concentrate, which I tend to turn on in important situations, or social situations. I can't do it 24/7 though. I run out of concentration juice.

My major fear is that I'm going to 'fail' the assessment and be left without support. In which case I'll have to try something else.

I'm not really that keen on the idea of medication, really.


If you pass, what sort of support are you hoping to get, if not medication?

I hope I pass, and get put on something like Adderall. It might even help with my oversleeping!


Well I reckon medication is probably what there is. I'll give it a go.


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05 Feb 2012, 10:26 am

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And I don't like the threads that involve saying something positive about a fellow WP member, because all the positive remarks are about maybe 3 or 4 members, to hell with everybody else.


This exactly.


This x2.
...and exactly that.

Moog wrote:
I am going for part 3 of an assessment soon.

Hope you get the answers you want Moog.



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05 Feb 2012, 10:31 am

Thanks Russ :)

I think I just need some help with focussing and I'll be fine.


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05 Feb 2012, 10:41 am

I also hate it when I spend 40 minutes writing something up on threads, only to have other people spam the bajeesus out of it.
People shouldn't be unpopular, but selfish silliness like that should.


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06 Feb 2012, 8:44 am

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Interesting, I didn't know there was a TV show with a character called Keeno. What was the show? I could tell you then if I'm anything like the character. :P


No, ya clot - Keynotes! The morning game show from about twenty years back! :)]



Ah, I vaguely remember Keynotes. Your videos vaguely brought back memories. :)

Nice new Scottish flag avatar I see!



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06 Feb 2012, 8:48 am

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I also hate it when I spend 40 minutes writing something up on threads, only to have other people spam the bajeesus out of it.
People shouldn't be unpopular, but selfish silliness like that should.


This.



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06 Feb 2012, 11:43 pm

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Interesting, I didn't know there was a TV show with a character called Keeno. What was the show? I could tell you then if I'm anything like the character. :P


No, ya clot - Keynotes! The morning game show from about twenty years back! :)]



Ah, I vaguely remember Keynotes. Your videos vaguely brought back memories. :)

Nice new Scottish flag avatar I see!


Was Keynotes like Name that Tune? The only music-themes game shows I remember were Name That Tune (even then, only the Jim Lange version), and Face the Music (with Ron "Tarzan" Ely)


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07 Feb 2012, 7:11 am

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Do we have some kind of a vibe that just doesn't really register on other people's radar?? Not being seen or heard, repeatedly and by pretty much everyone... how is that possible? I've always found this very puzzling. :?


That strikes to the heart of the matter

Even though I never saw B9's deleted post, I can intuit his despair

The truth is... we have no vibe
we only have eyes
and brains
and senses
that are indiscriminate
and at the same time focussed
on the stuff we focus on
no matter how banal or esoteric they are

we can't help where our attention goes

the truth is neurotypicals should look on in wonder
and let us grab them by the nose
and make them look a lot deeper


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07 Feb 2012, 9:09 am

syzygyish wrote:
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Do we have some kind of a vibe that just doesn't really register on other people's radar?? Not being seen or heard, repeatedly and by pretty much everyone... how is that possible? I've always found this very puzzling. :?


That strikes to the heart of the matter

The truth is... we have no vibe
we only have eyes
and brains
and senses
that are indiscriminate
and at the same time focussed
on the stuff we focus on
no matter how banal or esoteric they are

we can't help where our attention goes

the truth is neurotypicals should look on in wonder
and let us grab them by the nose
and make them look a lot deeper


In the presence of people, they want to know your drama of the day. The small talk of what you experienced and what you plan to do for the day.
It's the ride or joy of life that they have and want to share it. It is animating to know what you've overcome or plan to do. It's drama emotion based.

If I'm distracted in thought or internally focused, I unconsciously send out that signal( vibe) 'I'm not available.' The outside of you ( body language) communicates to others if you are interested in this link or hook up-- your internal state of mind is telegraphed non-verbally-- they can take a quick pass here.

I can tell in an instant of time while conversing to a fellow ADDer where this is heading what exact sentence sunk in there and what verbiage flew over the scalp like a bird.

As a rule, if someone cannot get a sense of another mind as having a' presence of mind,' they won't be inclined to look for anything and move on because it appears there is nothing there to connect to-- (via body language).



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07 Feb 2012, 8:00 pm

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unpopular Wp members? yep then again I'm unpopular wherever I go.


Same here.


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08 Feb 2012, 3:28 am

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I posted this in the rants section, but as someone pointed out, it would probably be more fitting to be posted here. So here goes:

I'm very frustrated because a large number of people here post threads that are purposely controversial or are looking for pity points.
I can't seem to find any other Asperger's support forums for people that are determined to work on themselves. It seems like a lot of the users here who are successful and have made efforts are brushed aside, or argued with, or their words are lost in a sea of negativity. The site in itself is pretty good, and the articles are great!


But...

I don't really feel comfortable posting my genuine opinions on most of the threads here because it seems like a good amount of them turn into heated debates. I'm not much of an arguer, and I'm even less skilled at debating. All it would take is one articulate person, throwing a bunch of verbiage around, to debunk my thoughts on a subject.

I'm disheartened because I'm just not sure if this site will be a good advocate for my needs, and it would be nice if I didn't have to come up with ten thousand plus posts for those needs to be acknowledged.

Just because I'm new doesn't mean that I'm any less important than anybody else. This forum has been the hardest out of many to integrate into. The forum doesn't have to be a support group for a select few, if people would put forth a bit more effort into making new people feel welcome.


Well Im glad you liked my suggestion and I hope that this is helping you becoming more comfortable posting here(theres also a thread on adult for introducing yourself where members try to be nice to each other)


Feel free to post your personal opinion and avoid any further debates arising from it.
Ive been keeping an eye on another website for a while. On this website almost everyone is looking for a discussion(they have their own arguments section with spectators threads) that being said there are members that believe getting into an internet argument is pretty pointless and refuse to take part on the arguments section.
They are just quite clear about that and nobody says a thing about it so perhaps a warning on your signature about not wanting to be involved in pointless arguments about your ideas would be enough


Hope that you can eventually find your place here or in a more suitable board



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08 Feb 2012, 12:16 pm

Couple of things:
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ShenLong wrote:
You guys are really going off about something such as this? You aspies disappoint me.


The fact that you took the time to write this and you are unable to say anything similar to any of your friends that have been doing similar events on facebook disappoints me as well but I guess I was expecting too much from you.
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I sort of feel that, in life, most people cannot stand me and some tolerate me, although I have no friends. I don't go out any more - what's the point? I just try to smile and get through life as best I can. I am almost in a world of my own. I'm really nothing without my family and I have the feeling as though I'm almost on life-support at times. I'm 23, FFS...That's sort of how I feel on here, although I am probably popular with some - who, I am not sure - and unpopular, sometimes hugely so with others due to my personality. In real life, I am definitely unpopular. No-one outisde my family would care if I died tomorrow - but that stands for many of us, correct?


Then GET OUT and meet people. Ignore your mother when she tries to keep you indoors - that's what mine does and I would stay indoors if she had her way. Get out on your own!! !! Don't dismiss people either, like you told me how you do. Stop looking down on people who disagree with you - you'll widen your friendship circle (and knowledge) so much. No offense, but I don't talk to you much anymore because of the way you treat others on here - I can't be dealing with that in future.

If you want anything to change then you have to do it on your own. You have to face your worst fears and think, "F*** it, do I want to take risks and make life far more interesting, or stay indoors bored out of my skull?".

Perhaps this post was a bit harsh but she does have a point.
A while ago I was scared of approaching anyone online. I guess I feared rejection or something similar.

There were people that told me that I just needed to wait... but you know what? The only thing that got me out of this was someone that told me that I just needed to start approaching others and accept ay possible rejection as a normal thing we all go through because otherwise people wont approach you unless you start putting yourself out there.
Its sad but most people believe the isolated are that way by choice.



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10 Feb 2012, 1:24 am

Hello unpopular members! WP has made me feel left out a depressed yet again. :(

I don't understand some of the sarcasm which makes me feel inferior and dumb.
I am pretty sure it was used to insult me. I expressed an unpopular opinion and I then get treated like crap.

Many people on here don't care what others think about them but I do.
When someone is apathetic,sarcastic and mean to me then I get upset.

I asked people to explain the sarcasm but they just ignored me.
Am I the only aspie that doesn't understand sarcasm? WP seems to be very sarcastic.
Sometimes I feel that I am not welcome here.


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10 Feb 2012, 1:52 am

artrat, the reason I didn't explain Makayla's post immediately was because I thought it might be inappropriate to speak on her behalf, plus it's a bit shaming to tell you it was sarcasm if you had trouble picking it, so I thought it's best resolved by letting you talk to Makayla.


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