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(((kura))) - and share more if you care to.

For some reason, I'm really considering finding a shelter to go to.

Please don't. It's not in your son's best interest. Hang in until you can talk to your case worker.

If you have an apartment already, why would you want to go to a shelter?

Shelters don’t provide services.

I hope the guy hasn’t made threats to you.

I really don't know what to do.
If I stay here, my sound difficulties seem to cripple me. I need a place that I can get those things (the ones that can be fixed) fixed fast and not have scrutiny from my landlord.
For example, a different sound started yesterday. The sprinkler system room that is connected to my living room but divided by a wall is making loud clicking.
I have to use my sound machine again.

But, if I go to stay at my parents' rental...
the town has almost no resources to help me with independence and therapy.
I'd have to drive almost 2 hrs to get somewhere better. Plus, I don't have a job yet. And my parents can't do section 8.

Plus, me possibly getting urged to leave and a threat of eviction over something stupid. I didn't harass my neighbor. I'm constantly being judged for being sensitive.

I wonder if there are and safe, productive, good shelters for a single mother.

I keep saying, I want to win the lottery or if someone would miraculously give me a house.

Last edited by caThar4G on 03 Mar 2019, 6:26 pm, edited 1 time in total.

He said he'd give me 100.00 dollars a week. He has so far. The only sure way to have a steady income from him by gov is child support. I'm reluctant to share custody bc I really think this guy is a psychopath. My friend and I were discussing it. He doesn't know how to really love. His actions say people are more to be used.
His money is the only way I pay electric and water bc I still have to pay that.

I feel one of the few possible solutions is noise-cancelling headphones.

You’re going to get this sort of thing in any apartment complex.

Im guessing you would rather hear soft human voices than machinery.

I sense you need a more suburban or rural environment.

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.

Is your son sleeping through the night?

Can you live with your parents again?

You need to get something documented by a doctor or therapist about your autism / sensory difficulties so that you can't be evicted from where you are. I honestly don't think a shelter would be any quieter. It's easy to idealise that it will solve all your problems but there will be other people there so you will have to deal with their noise and their behaviour as well. There could be an equal number of clicking or beeping sounds from random sources. At least you have privacy now, and can demonstrate that you are looking after your child independently. Your parents' property sounds very secluded but it could possibly be a last choice if needed. I would consider going to your parents or finding a room mate, possibly another young mother, to share a different apartment somewhere.

Honestly, if the guy is emotionally imbalanced I don't recommend getting a paternity test or garnishee. I don't want to scare you but he could turn around and ask for custody to avoid paying you through a garnish. Take cash while you can but be prepared for it to stop one day. That's just the cold, hard truth.

Also, kortie makes excellent points about headphones.

My son is fine.
He and I are in my room away from the current clicking.

He doesn't seem to be affected by sounds like me.
But, when I am, he senses my stress.
That causes concern for me.

IsabellaLinton,
I'm getting a note from my therapist saying to KCDC that I need a house not an apartment.

I don't know how long that would take.
Currently, I'm at the end of my rope dealing with this.

I've secluded myself in my room today.

I'm seeing my case manager tomorrow.

I just wish someone would help me.

That GoFundMe didn't raise much either.
I'm surprised I got anything.

Can you get an air filter or something quiet that gives you a background noise you can tolerate? I have tinnitus and had to try a lot of white noise generators to deal with it. I gave up on them but maybe something like that would be calming to you? Even a soothing playlist of spa music or something calm?

I have one to deal for a few days.
But, if it doesn't get fixed, I can't really stand the air-filtering noise machine for long periods of time. I had to turn it on high for this noise.

This is why it is hard for me not to run in these situations.

I even had the wild idea of going to a church and saying, "Hey guys, can you help us with a house?"

I thought that sort of thing is what church is for other than worship, but how different from the Bible it is or seems now.

Anyway...

I'm just desperate I guess.

Your church isn't going to give you a house. The best you can do is keep amassing documentation about your autism / sensitivities so that you can't be evicted. Use that time to make the best, most informed decisions that you can about the future. Don't do anything suddenly or make impulsive moves. Have you seen an audiologist to have hyperacusis diagnosed? Maybe a hearing aid would help (some will drown noise).

Or put on some music you like. Not too loud....but loud enough.

Also, this may be a silly question but have you tried wearing little foam earplugs from the pharmacy? I wear them all the time in my own house and I've slept with them for years. If you use them PLEASE be careful as they are a choking hazard for your son ... but it's something that you should try. Mine are quite effective at night and I don't even hear my nephew come into the house most of the time.