I thought you were a friend. You don't have to like or comment on all my Facebook posts or even message me that much if you're busy and all that, but would it kill you to send me a birthday wish on my birthday through Facebook? I know people aren't obliged to wish their friends a happy birthday but I know that that's not the reason behind the fact that you haven't for the last 3-4 years but you wish everyone else a happy birthday on timelines. You're on Facebook a lot, I assume you have your birthday notifications activated as you do wish others a happy birthday (such as ex-colleagues), and you are supposed to be a friend. One year I bought you a bottle of your favourite wine for your birthday, and I wish you a happy birthday on your timeline every year, I don't expect a card or a present but a friendly birthday greeting on my timeline costs nothing and takes 2 seconds. About 4 years ago, the day before my birthday, you were all over me, telling me you'll send me a text (you have my number) or a Facebook message, but in the morning - nothing. You must have saw all our other friends wishing me a happy birthday on my timeline even if your birthday notifications are deactivated (which I doubt). We've known each other nearly 10 years, we got on like a house on fire, we know a lot of the same people, we are not strangers - why do you think that now that I don't work with you any more that you should just blank me out but still stay in contact with other colleagues that no longer work with you? It's hard not to take it personally when it seems like I'm the only one that gets ignored out of all our circle of friends.
I was going to make a separate thread about this but I don't like discussing perplexing behaviours of Facebook people when I'm on WP because all I get is a load of "maybe she doesn't know you well enough" or "maybe she's busy and doesn't think about you" or annoying clichés like that. No, if you were a friend you wouldn't be "too busy" to take the trouble to post a birthday greeting on my timeline after I done nice things for you in the past. I'm "busy", I have ADHD (unlike you), I haven't seen one of my friends since before lockdown and she doesn't use Facebook or text messaging, but I still remember when her birthday is and I always send her a card. I understand the fact that she doesn't send me a card because she hasn't got my address and she doesn't go out much to buy one, so it isn't anything personal. But knowing that I have you as a Facebook friend and it's more than easy to just write a quick birthday wish on my timeline, I don't expect to be ghosted or ignored. I just don't think you like me any more. I don't know why.
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