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18 Apr 2019, 7:05 am

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I understand now that it was a one-sided thing with your dad.

The real problem is that the "grown ups" ie, parents, teachers, medical people, are supposed to be the adults in a relationship. The "grown ups" are supposed to stay calm and not engage in rages, tantrums, anger, etc., when dealing with children/students/patients, etc.

I'm not saying I am perfect at all. I've made many errors of "grown uphood." But that's on me, not on the kid.

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18 Apr 2019, 7:51 am

Just reading how there are so many new species of things being discovered, I feel there are a great many things yet known, at least theoretically

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18 Apr 2019, 7:57 am

Graham cold cake snack of sorts with too many sweets on it. :lol: Because summer is very hot and very humid, being inside won't ever be enough.

While I doubt it'll last for 4+ days, but it'll surely lasts longer and definitely cheaper than a liter of ice cream.

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18 Apr 2019, 11:51 am

I have not been ‘eaten alive’ by the ‘working class community’, I dread so much.

With my dad at semi-finished (?) construction site. Mainly have been pulling up and gathering unneeded tarps—it’s feasible for me but goodness knows I doubt that would be the only thing I would if I did such work constantly. This makes this posting less ‘complainy’ than ones made yesterday.

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18 Apr 2019, 12:15 pm

blazingstar wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

I understand now that it was a one-sided thing with your dad.

Thanks Kraftie. Yeah I think people need me to say the whole thing but I've spent my whole life protecting him. Feels more like I had a German Shepherd dog than a dad, you know, the way that German shepherd owners always pretend their dog's not vicious then spend the whole time trying not to provoke the dog? But he's a person so I'm trying not to dehumanise him. At the same time, he won't allow himself to be more than that - when I tried to say there was a side to him I disliked, he argued and said his bad side was all of him...

Exactly, Blazing. I think some people aren't cut out to be parents which is fine before the event but then just - don't have kids. Because of other things (I'm not nasty but I'm incompetent and irresponsible and foul mouthed) I wouldn't have kids because to be a good parent means to be responsible most of the time and I'm stuck in 'teen mode'. Dad's stuck in 'toddler mode' and if he doesn't get what he wants, he tantrums.

And in a way that relationship has 1 been the same since I was a kid and 2 I think it's always kind of the case that until your parents are in their dotage, you're sort of their child. I've relied on mum so much over the last few days and she relies on my granddad when she's going through tough things etc. It's not exactly the same relationship as in childhood but it is a sort of hierarchical without being controlling relationship where the parent looks after the offspring. So when people think 'well you're 30', yes but it's been going on all my life. Probably part of why I have social anxiety is because he made it so I really was on show when we went out and people can remember that.
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I want to respond to the message some guy sent on Reddit but there are too many of them

Guys think it’s socialising to act physically rough

I actually started drafting poetry last night

Anyone in my family or his old friends and anyone I explain the whole story to will be on my side with dad because he’s incapable of relationships and selfish and I don’t care anymore about if he’s autistic because I’m autistic and have empathy and try to treat people well. He’s just the NT stereotype of autistic meaning ‘not caring about other people’

I feel like people will expect me to write about dad now and it will probably take at least 10 years before I’m able to

Some in-real-life places are as bad or worse than the internet for ‘trolls’ or just nasty people

I just want to be able to relax at the CSC without policing my stepdad and my own speech

We basically just need to do what they do and not care that everyone hates us

I haven’t actually seen Grease in years, I used to watch it every day

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18 Apr 2019, 5:08 pm

The bizarre combination I’ve read about, about the more ‘mythological’ component of angels, borderline pedophillia and s&m in the ‘Kushiel’s legacy’ novels.

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18 Apr 2019, 7:18 pm

Waiting for the return of WrongPlanet's golden age once more

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18 Apr 2019, 10:58 pm

Spoiled upper middle class brat from aikido

Some idiots just have too many advantages

Waste less time trying to articulate how much you hate precious lil "people"

Perfect phrasing is neither necessary nor sufficient

Unless published

Waste more time, on job, friends, hobbies

Invent, discover, innovation, creation, different

Dewey decimal system

Do new things

Expand comfort zone

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18 Apr 2019, 11:40 pm

Somewhere in the world, someone just wants to watch the world burn.

And somewhere in the world, someone is mourning for the world.

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19 Apr 2019, 12:50 am

I want to quit my job so badly. I started to think that i didn't even deserve a college degree. The only reason i graduated is because the education system is s**t here. I graduated without writing any essays or doing any presentations and now i'm expected to do these.

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19 Apr 2019, 5:55 am

I wish I had the guts to do what the publisher wants and send him the edgiest, most vital things I've written. Not soft stuff.

Thing is, I actually know him.

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19 Apr 2019, 5:59 am

You can send him a combination of your edgiest things and your more “literary” things.

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19 Apr 2019, 7:07 am

I'm glad I'm going somewhere else...not sure where yet.

My voucher is still good till June.

I still detest all forms of smoking.
The closest I've found to being somewhat tolerable to is a vape of certain scents and a cigar that smelled like mangoes.

I'm currently dealing with a smoke issue in my apartment, but I believe I'm battling it effectively till I Ieave. I hate dealing with this sort of thing almost everyday.

I want to be happier for my son.

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19 Apr 2019, 8:24 am

Is there any place open on Good Friday in TN other than Walmart and hospitals?

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19 Apr 2019, 9:31 am

Has anyone here ever primed and painted a concrete floor? I'm feeling industrious. I don't know where else to post this.

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19 Apr 2019, 10:15 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:

Has anyone here ever primed and painted a concrete floor? I'm feeling industrious. I don't know where else to post this.

unfortunately not Isabella..

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