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30 May 2019, 9:36 am

I wanna see the Nothing! :lol:

But to go there.. I must not actively sought the Nothing consciously. To see the Nothing, one doesn't.. 'Navigate'. One doesn't 'do' an 'effort'; that includes being impatient. Or even internally convey eagerness nor willingness.

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30 May 2019, 12:48 pm

KT67 wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Hi KT67.

Nice to see you.

Has anything happened to you?

Not recently like that. What upset me yesterday is that some woman on Reddit called me a misogynist for saying it's difficult to be a short woman who finds it hard to set boundaries and I wish I was a tall man. She said I'm linking my 'clearly distorted thinking' to being a woman and I need to 'seek help'.

I envy tall, muscular guys because even if they do find it hard to set boundaries, their physique does the talking for them. I envy women whose men (fathers, brothers etc) are protective enough to defend them. I envy people who grew up in areas with a lot of police, where it doesn't become an issue of 'who is the strongest'. I can't date men because every time I have done, it has been someone I find unattractive and scared to say no to and that scared to say no has lasted all the way up to the bedroom.

Basically every heterosexual relationship I've been in, since I was 13 and he was 35 has had an element where I wasn't consenting. I mean true consent where me saying no would have made a difference. I've specifically told men 'I don't want this' and they've continued. I specifically told a man I wasn't into kink and he hit me...

Yes women aren't deformed men but also, aspies aren't deformed NTs. We just find different things hard! She is so obviously caught up in tribalist mentality and 'I can't tell the truth it doesn't suit my agenda', most aspies would find it easy to break free of that.

Also what's scaring me is that I got given over £50 by someone I barely know for my birthday. The kind of guy who is meant to just buy me a drink (maybe not even that given male female dynamics, but the kind of mate you'd get a pint from). It's an over the top present so I think he expects something for it.

"woman on reddit" has a problem - sees misogyny where it doesn't exist. i don't know many books about setting boundaries but "the dance of anger" by harriet lerner is one that is clear but not exhaustive. i'd learn about it, practice it in low-stakes situations, then move on to prime time. i have gotten myself into unwanted sexual situations through lack of assertiveness. wouldn't happen today. maybe google setting boundaries and pick a book or two you might find helpful.

i like this meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJH7dt2K_7A

if you think a gift is too much, you can always give it back saying, "thank you, you are generous, but this is too much."

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30 May 2019, 3:08 pm

Needing to get to my therapist's office on time.

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30 May 2019, 4:27 pm

Dress blues

Improvised explosive device

Meps

Dodmerb

Usna

AWOL

Paralyzed veteran

Time in grade

Boy scouts promotion

Eagle scout

Don't ask don't tell

Drummed out

Night exercise

Obstacle course

Canteen

Demerit

Recycled

Straggling

Red tape

Open contract

Gi benefit

Va hospital

Welder

Musicians

Admin

Tuition

Military school

Discipline

Lazy

f**k captain Dumont, sfsu, ROTC

Penis had the nerve to tell me that "students that take six years to graduate are undisciplined. We don't take undisciplined students"

After graduation, almost nobody asked, years in college or gpa

Demoted to E1

Restricted to quarters

Smoked

Fort Leavenworth

Chelsea Manning

f**k you captain Dumont

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30 May 2019, 7:39 pm

Urgency to adjust to summer - need dehumidifier and a/c - fast!

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30 May 2019, 9:16 pm

If I'm this miserable at 77 degrees, how will it be at 80 or above?

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31 May 2019, 2:58 am

Redxk wrote:

If I'm this miserable at 77 degrees, how will it be at 80 or above?

I dunno.

It sounds rather coolly from my point of view. :lol:

Because, well... 90+ F and humid is the a summer norm at my city.

But it'll get crazier here soon. I mean crazier, I mean fluctuations between oppressively very hot and humid to calm monsoons and raging stormy sessions between hours to days.

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31 May 2019, 3:57 am

Redxk wrote:

If I'm this miserable at 77 degrees, how will it be at 80 or above?

window a/c units aren't that much.

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31 May 2019, 1:22 pm

auntblabby wrote:

Redxk wrote:

If I'm this miserable at 77 degrees, how will it be at 80 or above?

window a/c units aren't that much.

I already almost never leave my room, so that would be perfect for me.

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31 May 2019, 2:09 pm

Im freaking out bc i may have given my personal info to someone i don't know at all. Does anyone know if someone sends you a link to a google drive document and you view it, can they see your profile?

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31 May 2019, 5:21 pm

... I.. My body keeps refusing to go to sleep at night for some reason.

Last night sure I was asleep -- for 3 hours.
Tried to go to sleep again, only to waste, like, I dunno, another 4 hours lying down with eyes closed yet not asleep. :skull:

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31 May 2019, 10:03 pm

Peter Mims

The future

The past

Forrest

Liposuction

"Miscommunication"

Paralyzed football

Follow your dreams versus be practical

STEM

Ear discharge

Units

Definition

No friends

Support group is *
,

"Actions speak louder than words "

Brain numb

Pain receptors

Itchy Rolando Morales penis

Miracle

Nothing matters

No hope, no life

The health clinic is in a ghetto

While I only live three miles away, it's like, drastic

Feel like someone will rape me

Feel pity for the residents

The doctor is a minority race, woman

She wore men's (boys) clothes

Long sleeve dress shirt

Did not tuck in

Short hair

Don't know if she is cisgender

Minority

Feel bad

Even the doctor is struggling

Feel so guilty

Plenty of people have worse lives than me

They are still successfully in some ways

Myth, miscommunication, misconception, conception,

"Reality"

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01 Jun 2019, 3:27 am

Mr Miyagi mustve had a sixth sense , like he knew immediately that Daniel was the right "clay" to form the first time he met him.......

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01 Jun 2019, 10:35 am

Rafael Nadal turns 33 on Monday!

Thirty-three years, 17 Majors, 11 French Opens (and maybe number 12 coming up?)

The Man From Manacor, Majorca, Spain continues to amaze!

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01 Jun 2019, 10:44 am

Just making my way through what is known as entanglements known as The NT Jungle

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01 Jun 2019, 11:23 am

When text medium... Fails.

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